virginity important???

Question

im a filipina girl, very beautiful,but i have still no bf coz i dont want and i want to study first...im just curious
well i asking to the point,was virginity still important???why in other country people most of all were not virgins and if still virgins then its a shame to them???why do most of all the girls want to give up themslves??and boys want it too???
hello people, dont u want ur virginity be a gift to ur husband or wife??well i am....
u know virginity is very important to me,u dont have to give up ur body just to show ur love ones that u very love them!
hey u guys give me a GOOD OPINION or maybe ur experience??

Answer 1

It depends where you live, your culture and religion. Mostly in the US no it is not important at all. As a matter of fact is a nauseance that get in the way. A boy virgin in the u.s. is actually considered inferior. Then again a girl who gets around too much is a bad thing. Well thats changing fast though. The truth of the matter is that people here just want the sex and care very little on the others person track record. Most think that the least they know the better as long as the other person doesn't have a venerial disease. The thinking is that people want a good sex partner. In order to be good a anything you have to practice. Ergo, by extension a virgin is not good in bed. Or so the thinking goes.

Another thing is that relationships now a days are different. People are not afraid to get divorce anymore or even get marry. Most people will wait a long time to get married and not because of lack of mates. This then means that just because you are a virgin when you marry does it guarantees that the mariage will work. What usually happens is that you give up your virginity to some one. Youstay with them for a while and then the relationship doesn't work so they move on. Thats it. Yes it was special that first time but no more special than the first time you do anything else like the first hamburger you ate or the first roller coaster or the first shot of tequila. That is to say, it may be very important to you but it might be meaningless to anybody else.

Now I'm not saying to go and give it up to the next guy you see. You have to do what you believe in. What I'm saying is that there are many believes out there and yours is just another one just like mine is just another opinion/belief. Waiting for the right person is just as valid as the person who think you should give it to a stranger. Sure the first one is safer but none are more correct because both cases can claim that it was the best desision they made as well as say that it was a nightmare.

One thing is true though. If you don't feel comfortable with something or someone then don't do it. Also be very weary of anyone that forces you to go against your belief.

Some people think very highly of virginity but I don't for one reason. If you knew the origin and purpose of virginity you can only conclude that is a very nasty and cruel thing. You see back in the day women where property. Marriages where either arrange from birth or sold. In order for a man to marry a woman he would have to give a dowry which usually included animals and other such goods. Maybe grains. A woman was a very costly commodity back in the days. Remember that back in the days mortality rate was high. If you made it to 40 you where the village elder. Having a healthy female meant that your gene line could continue. Yes, people back then did not neccesarily marry out of love. Not like they do now. A man had to pay so the logic here is that if a man is to pay he wants to how can I put it, buy a new item. Is like buying a new car. You want that car to have zero miles not 100. 100 miles in a car is low but still that is not a new car. Also, if a woman lost her virginity it could mean that she might be pregnant with another man. Taking care of a child means a lot of resources. It takes time and lots of mony to raise a child and back then things like food where not easy to come by. Thus, virginity was a good thing.

So, there you have it, it was not about purity or morals but to raise the womans value. Thats what virginity really means. Its an insult really. To be more valuable because people are more willing to pay a higher dowry and not because they look at you for your skill, knowledge or other good things that a person can be measured for. Over time this meaning has changed a bit but that is its origin. So, go ahead and celebrate the fact that you are valued the same way we value other material possesions.

Answer 2

When i was younger from the age of when i first learned about the meaning of virginity to about 18 years of age, i was very young, i didn't understand the concept of love, maybe puppy love. But i could not understand how girls at my school were 15 and 16 and having sex and making babies, i was so disgusted with them.

Yes saving your virginity for your future husband/wife would be the most ulimate gift you could give. But life before that happens you know? You may not get married until you are 35 years old, a lot happens between those years.

In my experience i was 14 years old when i had my first boyfriend, we dated until we were 17, as we got older, sure there were times things got hot and heavy between us, but i was still very uncomfortable about losing it. Well after 3 years we broke up and we never had sex once, i never even saw him naked.

Then a day before my 18th birthday i dated my second serious boyfriend, im well into my 20's now and i lost my virginity to him when i was 21, after 3 years of dating. I always thought i would wait until i was married, but i was getting older, i was deeply in love with him, and i wanted to share the moment with him. Sometimes i feel bad about it as i think back, but im still with him, even if we broke up im glad i lost it to a good guy. As you get older your persepctive changes a lot, you can never say never, life goes by just have to go with the flow.

Answer 3

It depends on how old you are. Sex is a part of life, and understanding sex makes your relationship better and makes you understand yourself better. If you are a teenager, it's better to wait, but if you don't, make sure you think it through. I had the opportunity at 16 but I decided the guy wasn't worth it, so my next bf that I was with for 4 years was the first, and I was 17. You have to make the right decision.
Most of the time, people make the decision not to have sex until they are married, or whatever, and I don't think that's smart. Usually the reason is just because it's "god's will" and I believe in doing what's best for me, not whats best for "god". Virginity is not a gift- that is an ideal placed upon us by religion. Religion also wants us to avoid birth control, so again, is that what you want? If you think sex is "giving it up" to someone, then you have the wrong idea about what sex means in a relationship. The first time sucks anyway and it hurts so saving yourself for your wedding night is a bad idea.

Answer 4

Well, I'm no longer a virgin and I'm not feeling any sense of guilt whatsoever. I gave up my virginity when I thought it was the right time. I was with the guy for 8 months before we lost our virginity to eachother. Then we continued to date for another year.

Anyway, my fiance and I are sexually active and we have a son together. My fiance is not upset about the fact that I didn't save myself for marriage. We're very happy together and we're happy with our sex life and we love our son more than anything...and of course, our son would not be here without sex =). Sure, we could have got married and then had him...but things happen and I wouldn't change it for the world.

I think that people give themselves up because they want to please their boyfriend or girlfriend. Or, they may feel that they need to have sexual experiences to feel wanted or needed. Or, they could just be ready and very much in love! I do know people that are still virgins and I think it's great...you know, whatever they want to do with their life =). It is their choice.

I also read a very interesting newspaper article about having sexual dysfunction and other things later in life if you don't lose your virginity before you're 21...

here's the link:
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,314104,00.html

Answer 5

Everyone has their own idea when it comes to virginity. Some believe if you are in love its fine. Personally I lost mine to my husband, 1 month before getting married. It wasn't cause I never had the chance I just never wanted to cause I knew I wasn't going to be with those other people for the rest of my life. Don't worry about what people think of you being a virgin, save it for your husband.

Answer 6

its peoples choice.so live with it.
you choose to obey god's rule and stay a virgin till ur married. good for you but people are different and they have their own way of life.
but of course,we cant be giving ourselves to every stranger we come across our life. be wise in choosing and also dont get trapped easily.

not being a virgin doesnt mean that the person is cheap,uneducated,and unsucessful. girl, ur preaching like you just got a PHD from the church or something,
and whats with that exclamation mark?? ur yelling?
everyone has a choice on how to live their life. you cant force everybody to stay a virgin just because you are.
sorry but im annoyed with your question here.
good luck
but i still respect you.

god bless

Answer 7

Let's face it... people today dont have the same morals and values as they used to... the things that used to be...let's say morally wrong are no longer such a big deal in today's society...to find someone who is still a virgin these days is less common then finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, ya feel me?

but to be honest if parents would try harder to instill better morals and values in todays youth it still wouldnt be that productive looking at all of the sexual refrence in everyday things tv movies ad's pretty much everything you come in contact with...so maybe it's not that people dont have respect for themselves...it's just simply lost it's importance!

thats my opinion anyways

Answer 8

It's very important. And the way you lost your virginity will stay with you for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Yes , virginity is important. I was a virgin when I got married at age 28. I am happy i saved my self for my husband. Our wedding night was the best and very special. I think its sad that girls and boys don't value their bodies and give it up so easy. We were not meant to have sex with every one as you can see all of those diseases like herpes and aides. One thing I do know is that once you give it up, the romance is gone.

Answer 10

My best friend is Filipina! they are gorgeous women! Virginity is very very important......I lived in Italy for a couple months with my italian relatives and i made the mistake of losing my virginity at 17.....I regret it so much! Of course it is important especially to women.....on the contray experiencing sex can be very enlightening and will make you more aware of the world and not so phobic of men.....I would wait till you find the right man and you are at least 19 or 20.......waiting for marriage is even better!