Why is my boyfriend acting like this???

Question

Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2 and a half years.
During most of our relationship we have gone to eachother's family events. When ever he asks me to go, I always go no questions or complaining.

But everytime I want him to go to my family events like my sister and brother in laws for thanksgiving or a birthday dinner, he either comes up with an excuse why he cant go, or while we are there he complains about being there and wants to leave early.

If anyone has had the similar situation or has any advice on why he does this or how to approach him. I have asked him about it before and he always avoids the subject or gives me a bogus excuse.

THANKS!!

Also
He gets along with all of my family and has no problem when its unplanned time with my family.

The only person he doesn't like is my sisters boyfriend and he uses him as an excuse to why he doesn't go even if he is not going to be there. My family loves him, I just hate having to explain to my family and myself why he isn't there. Because I never know if he is giving me a real reason or an excuse.
:(

Oh I should clarify I have 2 sisters. One who is married. My brother in law and him get along well they go to the gym together and things like that.

BUt my other sister has the bf who he doesnt like.

Plus family events never have more than 10 people we have a small family

Thanks everyone for your awesome answers!

Answer 1

i have the same problem i suggest you just make him feel comfortable =D


no im serios get him to talk to your family members so he can feel comfortable being there in a safe enviorment

it sure helped me

im sure it WILL help your boyfriend trust me give it a go and tell me how it goes

Answer 2

My little sister is actually going through the same thing, and Ill tell you what I told her. I think he needs to be sat down and just ask him why. Cuz if he is uncomfortable with your family then you can find ways around that. Like maybe not having him at big family functions just kind of ease him into the family slowly. Invite him to hangout with you and your sister and her husband one at a time til he feels comfortable.

Answer 3

I don't know what your situation is, but it's not very nice of him to throw a hissy fit whenever you ask him to attend a family event. If you guys are going to have a future together, that will also be his family too. A good boyfriend will bite the bullet and make nice whether he likes it or not.

Answer 4

i was the same way with my girlfriend who is now my wife. I just didn't want to be around anyone other than my wife and I. I was the jealous kinda guy and I wanted her to be with me and I wanted all the attention. I am glad I changed and I am not the same anymore. I guess what I am trying to say is that give it time and things will change. It took me about a year to realize that i was being "dumb" for no reason. As long as he respects you and loves you than you're fine. Just give it time and everything will fall in place. I love my wife and we have two beautiful kids. God Bless.

Answer 5

my boyfriend of almost ten years does me the same way when I ask him about it he always says that when hes around my family they act like they dont want him around I didn't think that was true until this year at Thanksgiving and he was right so the next family function that he attends see if your family makes him feel likes hes not wanted there and if its your family and not him then you have to confront them and find out what the problem is
Good Luck if you Love him and want to be with him and yur family is the problem then you have to tell your family that he is part of your life and they ahould respect that for you to make it better for you and your boyfriend

Answer 6

I had a similiar situation. I m a boy, and before i met my present girlfriend, i was dating for a short time with my girlfriend's sister. She doesn't know that, but i m very uncomfortable when i go there. U should try to find out if he did something similiar! or maybe he is just not so sociable.

Answer 7

My ex-bf used 2 do the same thing..
it was always excuses excuses...

ask ur bf what could be more important then
spending time w/you.


that is unless he has a dyeing family member

Answer 8

It's probably someone he doesn't get along with or someone he doesn't want to see. You should talk to him about it.

THERE YOU GO, that's your answer: Your sister's boyfriend,
but like I said, you should talk to HIM about it. I mean if your boyfriend can't tell you WHY, I don't think any of us can either. We can only give you an idea. Good luck! :)

Answer 9

boys are dumb.
they are also extremely territorial. they tend to like to be at home in safe surrounding and friends.
when i went to my in laws, they embraced me and there was like 3- 4 of them kinda had heard i was an old hippy biker type like them and they let me know hey we been there done that so i felt a lot safer and secure in like minded people.
if i was surrounded by 50 --70 yr olds and 50-- teen agers i would have wanted to leave early also.
you know your family and friends find some that have interests like him and introduce them. he will forget all about wanting to go home early

Answer 10

The answer is simple... he is a GUY. Men are eternally immature and only like to do things that are amusing for them. It doesnt mean that he doesnt love you, only that hes still got some growing up to do...