Why do guys in the military break up with their girlfriends before deployments even though they say they still love them and that there will still be a chance at having a relationship when they come back?
2007-12-02 18:43:26 · 5 answers · asked by little e 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
its hard dealing with a relationship while deployed...some guys dont want the extra stress, like worrying whats going on back home with their gf's...and others want the freedom to do as they please while over here...im over here now and im engaged and there r issues that come up and sometimes i dont want to deal with them cause i worked all night and want to sit down and have a nice conversation and relax...not all guys breakup with their gf's...just the mentally weak ones do!
2007-12-02 18:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by itsme21 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys break up with their girlfriends, and not all soldiers deployed to Iraq face life and death situations every day. Cant blame it on the bullets!!! Yes, it changes you, but those that are fobbets see different things that scouts and infantry. And even those soldiers that kick in doors and dodge bullets will handle things differently. There is NO way to know how a soldier will deal with a deployment, but the best thing is to respond lovingly and understand as much as possible that it can be rough. My husband is on his 5th career deployment, our 3rd together (2nd to Iraq) and he comes home the same as when he left. He handles everything just fine. No, he isnt a fobbet. He is an 88M, a trucker. So he is on the streets of Baghdad, and other parts of Iraq, daily. He has earned his CAB, multiply times if he could be awarded more than 1. Yet, he is my same sweet, gentle husband, bestfriend, love of my life, still.
"Why" do they do it? Dunno. But I know that wives and girlfriends are a GREAT source of support for deployed soldiers, so to say goodbye before a deployment is giving up that support!
2007-12-03 09:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because it is HARD being in combat and having to deal with whiny wenches who pick fights becuase they don't understand that sometimes, they really cannot call you every single bloody day or that email does go down once ina while.
These guys are about to head into COMBAT and cannot afford to be distracted by problems at home.
There is also the possibility that they do not want to lead the person on, or feel as if it's better for everyone to put a hold of emotions during the deployment. PTSD is very real and does change a person permanently.
2007-12-03 08:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this is to easy honestly its because we don't want you the women getting hurt see allot of time you don't understand what we go Thur you try to be there but you can never truly be there for us you have to understand Iraq changes people you are not the person you were before after you get done with it see it puts you in a different mind set and when it cums time to deal with you or your problems they seem so petty were dealing with life and death situations every day i speak from my experience there really isn't a day that we go out that we don't get shot at or almost blown up Ive been put into a situation were people died its a mess we tend not to be concerned bout your problems its like yeah we are here for you listen to that but inside were like what bout us the hardest part of being deployed is you always feel like your alone so instead of putting you Thur all that drama all the cahos of our life we rather let you got so you don't have to deal with it so you don't have to be stressed we try to stay strong and do it on our own
2007-12-03 03:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to be a warrior, in love. Best to drop anything that could limit your performance. Save it for later - if alive upon return.
2007-12-03 03:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by plenum222 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋