how are we supposed to mourn a death of a loved one?

Question

I recently became a Christian, and I want to know, how are we supposed to mourn a death of a loved one? I mean, other Christians have told me that we should be happy and I understand why, but they do usually a party to celebrate it and stuff, but I want to know, isn't that a little bit disrespectful or bad? because I remember Jesus wept in Lazarus tomb.

Answer 1

Jesus did not weep because Lazarus passed...he resurrected Lazarus.
Christians weep when a loved one passes because they will miss this loved one.

Answer 2

If your just talking about the gathering after the funeral,. its all in what you want to do, Most people have some sort of get together with food and drink to talk about and remember the deceased .Plus its polite to refresh and feed your mourners as some have come a long way. Other than that,..there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Its a personal and private journey. Having lost a husband and daughter at the same time,. I have chosen to celebrate and honor their lives,.and do good things in their name rather than dwell on how they left this world, I was blessed to have had them at all. So,. I set up a dance scholarship in my daughters name,. and I give to a charity in my husbands name,. I also keep them in mind all year long when people I know need a little help. Grieving is so individual,. no two are alike,. so its doing whatever feels right to you.

Answer 3

I guess in your own way. In typical Christian teaching, you are only mourning the suffering of your loved on, or know that you will miss them. If they were a Christian, they are in a better place than we are anyway. So I would mourn that they won't be around for a while, until I join them. Not because they are 'dead'. Death is only a change in status and environment.

Answer 4

Well, the "party" that they have is usually after the funeral service and the burial and it's meant to celebrate the life of the person that passed. I don't think it's disrespectful or bad whatsoever.

People mourn in different ways, it's really what works for you.

Answer 5

some human beings sense that in the event that they don't mourn the loss of life of one, that they seem to be a bad guy or woman for not lacking them, so they opt for a time that seems long to them, yet not see you later that their total existence is everyday around it, so they opt for one 365 days. the element is that when you're over the sweetness of that loss, it rather is greater healthy to start up celebrating the guy's existence and survive with yours. I even have lost my mom, an costly buddy, and a woman I enjoyed with all my heart, and that i'm nonetheless in ordinary terms a youngster, yet you do not see me dropping my existence away because of the fact of that. I take each and every thing I found out from them and use it in my existence to make me happier. confident, i'm getting some days that I sulk around, and that i enable that, because of the fact i understand that that's completely fantastic to have unhappiness as an emotion. all and sundry grieves in distinctive techniques, and that i think of which you would be able to enable your mom be and you may circulate at your guy or woman %., regardless.

Answer 6

I think you have to mourn over the death of a loved one because you have lost someone who you loved. It is okay to mourn, but if you know they are saved and know God, you can also be happy because they are going to be in a better place.

Answer 7

Mourn the death of a loved one however you feel comfortable.

Mourning is meant to be your personal way of finding out how to cope with the passing of someone you love...

Whatever you do, don't let religion, other people, or anything/anyone APART FROM YOURSELF dictate what is right or wrong because if you don't do it your way, you'll never come to terms with the death.

Answer 8

Try and act natural. If thats not possible do like I always do rub onions near your eyes. That'll get the ole juices flowin and give them a show they'll never forget. Sorry folks it's past my bedtime and I should leave before I tempted to try and be funny again.

Answer 9

There is no set way to mourn. However, if the deceased is Christian, then rejoice in their salvation. If you miss them, it is perfectly normal to grieve.

Jesus cried because He never created man to die but rather to live forever. And then along came Adam and Eve.

Answer 10

if you truly a believer, then you will know that the person who has died has moved on to a better and happier place, therefore it should be a celebration. Not only a celebration of the life they lived on earth, but a celebration of family, and their loved ones who gathered to be around them.