I am a senior in high school and I plan to go out of state for college. Mother is nearly devistated. Every day she cries and carries on about everything she is going to miss about me. I am and only child and we (Mother and I) are very close. She also has MS and feels that she cannot be a part of my plans because she is basically un able to travel. She has lost so many things as it is and fears loosing me. She makes me feel so guilty. I don't know what to do to ease her troubles when I'm gone. I'm looking for ideas to make her life easier and to ease/lessen her empty nest syndrome. Please help.
2007-12-02 17:48:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have MS and only get depressed when I get sick, because my mom is my care giver. I fear the day she leaves this Earth because they'll be no one to care for me. Maybe your mom feels thw same way.
2007-12-02 17:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing when my daughter left for school, she is in her last year now and it is a lot easier now.
My son is 12 and still at home I will probably freak for a while when he leaves.
You are so lucky to have a Mom that will miss you my Mother couldn't wait to be rid of me and never let me come back and I left at 17 and not for school.
You should not feel guilty , just hug her and tell her you will be home for visits and that you are still her girl and that you love her and always will.
Tell her that you are worried about her and that she needs to try to be strong so you can be strong too. Joke with her that you are not going to your death. She may just need to cry it out, but she will get over it a bit in time .
2007-12-02 18:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by GabbyGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My toddlers were out and in (on occasion with an finished relations in tow), so there not in any respect gave the look to be a time even as i'd be particular the nest change into empty. i ultimately left the nest myself. My modern-day nest is amazingly small yet nonetheless has accomodated a pair of my sons over the years. before the perfect infant left domicile, there have been already grandchildren coming round so i wager I not in any respect somewhat had that vacant nest feeling.
2016-10-25 08:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empty nest syndrome is a rumor. Part of growing up is to learn not to play into peer pressure or look for excuses that ok parental disrespect or encourages you to treat someone badly - in this case your mother. She's your parent and a human being.
Your mother will always be your mother and you will always be her daughter despite your going to college, getting married, or having children etc. Have you allowed yourself to be fooled into the "my mom wants me to fail and doesn't have a clue how old I am" game? Good luck with that because society will make you as paranoid and negative as you let them. There are other choices in life such as getting along with your mother and continuing to growing up instead causing rift in your relationships according to what you've fallen for.
2007-12-03 01:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allot of excellent answers ! I am an empty nest-er and I agree with most of the answers you have received, tell your Mom she needs to be strong so that you can be, and that things will not be that much different...you will call everyday and just talk. etc..and you will be home often, there is nothing wrong with calling home on a daily basis. and it will reassure your Mom that she is still part of your life. There will be tears....its extremely hard when your children leave home but, as long as you follow all of this excellent advice on how to make it easier on your Mom things should be fine.
2007-12-02 22:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by mom23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
Some mothers are very possessive and dramatic about their kids leaving for college... you can reassure your mother that you will write and call her often. (and do just that!). Even a short weekly note, will do and will give her some comfort while you are gone....
Your mom will probably be fine.. Meanwhile, she is probably trying to make you feel guilty, which i don't think is fair to you at all. Seems like some mothers put their kids into the "parent role" before their time.
I understand your mom is ill, and i'm very sorry for that. I sure hope that the doctors are doing everything they can for her.
take care and happy holidays
2007-12-02 17:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need to feel guilty....you are doing what you need for your life, i understand why your mom feels this way cuz mothers are close to their kid, my mom has 3 boys and was sad when my brother left but she got over it. tell your mother u will call her everyday..and see her as much as you can....we all must leave the nest someday. this is what our parents raised us for..to prepare us to spread our wings and fly. you guys still have till the summer together, enjoy the time u have left and let her know u appreciate everything shes done for you and shes done a great job. itll make her feel better about herself and when she sees your happy and having a good time at school shell be happy that your having a good time, cuz when ever we are happy our parents are happy cuz that is what they want...happiness for their children
2007-12-02 18:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by It's My Turn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her every day and comfort her. try to mention the things that are going on in your life so it gives her a sense of security that she is still part of your life.
2007-12-02 17:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a possesive n lovin momy u got.... :)
so jst call on her everynite n tell her all the day events.. :)
tell her everythin tht happens n dont let her eva feel tht ur far away from her !
all the best !
hv a nice time !
2007-12-02 21:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by jovi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋