This ones for the ladies, i wanna hear from you on this. a friend of mine said a girl got put off on the first date when they went out together just because he told her about his job, being an I.T Consultant (junior level).
would you be rubbing your eyes 5 minutes into a date with somebody who worked in the I.T Industry ? maybe you have and wish to share your experience.
2007-12-02 17:34:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, I don't so. Men are not all programmed to be the same. Just because one man in the I.T. field is boring, it doesnt mean they all are. My brother is actually in that field and he is actually pretty interesting. He also has a wonderful relation with a great girl. So no, some may be yes, but not all are. That can be the same with any occupation though, it depends on the person, not the job.
2007-12-02 17:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Alleykat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the individual guy and individual girl. I wouldn't recommend spending most of your date describing in detail the most recent IT problem you tackled at work...unless she is also in IT and you know she'd find it interesting. If in fact that's what happened, that she got put off JUST because he said he's in IT, then they just saved themselves wasted time in the future since she's obviously got a thing against IT guys.
But it could be that he didn't tell you the whole story (most people aren't going to tell you about the part where they bored the person to tears). Especially if you're nervous on the date, maybe think ahead about two or three different things you could talk about BESIDES work, and make sure at least some of what you talk about is in the form of questions, like, "Have you seen any good movies lately?" or "What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?" or "Have you always lived in (this town)?" (if not), "Where else have you lived?" and "What do you like and not like about (this town) compared to other places you've lived?" And then LISTEN to the answers and be prepared to provide some comments about your own experiences/movie preferences etc.
Dating should be give and take, not one person doing all the talking. Of course, some people are more shy and some are better at talking on the first date, but there should be at least some talking and sharing from each party. Remember, if someone had a bad first date they may just be "saving face" by telling you that the person apparently dislikes all I.T. professionals instead of saying, "The date didn't go well, I don't think she had a good time" because the other answer is less personal. It hurts to think the other person didn't enjoy your company very much; the work answer hurts less. Personally, I think most IT folks are really smart...since I tend to get stuck at work and need IT tech support a lot I appreciate and am grateful for those guys.
2007-12-02 17:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Joy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several men I have dated (if you want to call it that) are in the I.T. profession, and have bored me to sleep. But others are incredibly interesting and have other hobbies besides computers. Frankly, if a girl is put off because of his job, he got lucky. He didn't have to continue dating someone so shallow and can move on to someone who will actually like him. But maybe she just found him boring, not the job.
2007-12-02 17:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they're not plain boring! My husband is in IT and I don't think he's boring at all. If a girl gets put off by a job like that then she's not worth it anyways...his job has nothing to do with his relationship with a woman...it's not like he's going to be coming home and doing programming all night! And if she's bored by him simply talking about his job, then again, she's not going to be the kind of partner he'd want anyways. He should be with someone who can hear about his day at work without groaning about it.
2007-12-02 17:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was with a computer programmer for 5 years and that had absolutely nothing to do with why we split, and I HATE computer programming. Anyones job can be boring to you if it's not something you're interested in....he rarely talked about his work too technically with me though because he knew I wasn't into it.
2007-12-02 17:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose not all of them. Some could be interesting. The only person I know in IT talks about nothing but computers and thinks everyone is enjoying it, but they're not, so I guess it really depends on the person.
2007-12-02 17:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I went to school for graphic design so no a guy in the IT business wouldn't be boring. It all depends on the girl your looking for. Cuz I know from my own experiences IT isn't easy!!!
2007-12-02 17:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Oh Me!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think it from his profession .................. i think it from other reason that made the person not attractive such as personality , attitude and others but not from work or profession , and 1 thing you must know is the beauty on the eye of the beholder ,
question : if bill gate make date with you , will you accept him?
just jocking
2007-12-02 17:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Me M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its not boring i manage IT
depends upon the guy
me a guy not boring ....
who said geeks go to IT profession some are really quite
not the way you think they are
2007-12-02 17:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I find it fascinating. My husband to be works in IT and I love hearing about what he's been doing.
2007-12-02 17:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by vanilla e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋