how do i talk to my 16 yearold about things so she will listen?

Answer 1

Think back to when you were 16. Smoke a j? sit her down and have a beer?

You can't make her listen. maybe she just needs to find out on her own. Forcing, yelling, punishing for not listening results in rebellion and therefore anger within the relationship.

Start out by talking about her day, how it went, or things she likes, would like to do(this weekend or later on) get to know your daughter like a friend and this won't be so hard.

the best of luck

Answer 2

Eh, we're teenagers... when are we ever going to listen? Probably never. Sorry. But i think that's the point of being a teenager... is to not listen and learn.

The best a parent can do is just be calm and assertive. Remember... teenagers especially are very moody and defensive. So instead of making it seem like a guilt trip( since a lot of the reasons kids tend to distance themselves is because parents loose their temper or begin to judge their kids because of their feelings), just simply state what you want. Maybe confront her and ask if you guys can go for a walk, or talk in the living room when everyone else is off doing their own thing. Ask her if she has any thoughts or feelings on whatever you guys need to discuss. Once you've listened and taken into consideration her point of view, then tell her you've listened and you expect her to treat you with the same respect.

If she still doesn't cooperate, lay down the line. We teenagers think we know everything, if we don't win you over or get what we want, then we're just going to ignore and be pissed. Sometimes, since we don't see the big picture you have to help us open up our eyes. We don't always get what we want, and that's the lesson (i think?) she needs to learn. If she's not going to do as you say, then remind her whose house she's currently living in, who pays the bills, and who buys the food. What you say goes and whether she likes it or not... that's how the cookie crumbles. She just needs to grow up and start being obediant. When she gets a job, it's going to be her bosses way or the highway.

Last piece of advice, i know that having a teenager is hard and you think we're just a bunch of lazy spoiled grouches, but try and think back to a time when you were in our position. I'm sure you were probably just as bad, so don't be too angry... if we were never stupid and didn't strive to experience things, we probably would never learn anything.

Answer 3

my daughter is only 13 and I take her out for a bite to eat and go sit somewhere private like a park bench. Start out by asking how she is doing and slowly go into what you have to talk about, that way you have her attention already. They may not listen, but you have to do you motherly and or fatherly job. Hope this helps, everyone is different.
Key is to listen to her and don't get upset with anything they say.

Answer 4

As a mother of seven, I can tell you that she may be PRETENDING not to pay attention to you. But she hears, and understands EVERYTHING you say to her.
She is at the age where she thinks she knows everything. My daughter is there too. But somehow out of the blue, my daughter always seems to bring up subjects I have spoken to her about while she was "Ignoring" me.
What works for me is talking to her in private, being understanding, non judgmental, I never yell, or fuss, I give her privacy (But not too much) and show her respect.
Be her friend and spend time with her.
I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is let her know you are there if she needs someone to listen to HER...

You do have the right to tell her how you feel if she's doing something you perceive to be wrong or dangerous for her, yes..... but she will hear you the first time.

Be consistent about your rules and expectations. Sixteen year olds don't usually "listen" well, but they should be expected to follow their parents' rules.

take care.

Answer 6

With love and respect. Listen carefully to her. It's like talking to anyone else. People instinctively want to be heard. Especially teenagers because they tend to be just getting their "voice" in the world. I say listen attentively, and respond with love and respect. Good luck to you!!

Answer 7

ya right, a tanager listen to anything a parent says?i think if you talk to her and treat her like you would an adult ,you may get somewhere, but you know, they know everything already?take her out to a nice dinner or lunch and try talking like 2 adults there,but remember you gotta listen to and try not to act to shocked or mortified by what she says-or asks.its gonna be hard,but really try to treat her like an adult, both asking and listening.your not allowed to get angry, no one is allowed to talk in raised voices.just 2 women talking about life?this is not a easy feat, good luck to you and best wishes

Answer 8

You need to listen to her first and then if she thinks you are interested in what she has to say she will listen to you.