My question is,should I write my mother a letter or should I not. It has been quite a few years since I have spoken to her. Im 21 years old and im happily married. Im now a grown woman. My whole life I pretty much grew up without my mom. When I turned 15 years old my father and I were having problems... always arguing.. so i decided i wanted to get to know my mom. I moved from FL to NY. When I moved in with my mom things were going great. She just had remarried this guy that she known for a while. After 2 months after i was living with them things became very sour between her husand and I. He was pretty much a dick. He also made me feel uncomftable in ways he would look at me and touch me like rubbing my butt (very weird) I know! He basically reuined my relationship with my mom. I moved out a lil over a year i was living with them. Ever since I have not spoken to my mom. She pretty much cut my brothers and I out of her life. I found out her address... do you think i should write her?
2007-12-02 17:02:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think even if i did write her a letter about my feelings her husband would just throw it out immediatley when he sees a letter from me to my mom in the mailbox.
2007-12-02 17:05:44 · update #1
by all means yes. you are her child forever. he may and hopefully will be temp
2007-12-02 17:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Mom is not the Mom you deserve.
My Mother is a lousy mom too and sometimes I wish I did not have to stay in touch with her.
If your life is going well I would say do not write her.
It will probably not get you what you need anyway.
I think of Moms like ours as empty wells that we keep throwing a bucket down to get some "love"
and it always comes up empty.
Try to find someone else who can fill her role in your life like an older friend or aunt maybe your granny.
Your Mom sounds like an empty well honey, and I am sorry to tell ya this because I know it hurts.
2007-12-02 17:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by GabbyGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very healing and therapeutic to write letters to folks you have had problems with such as parents.
You need to write down all your hurts, hates, sorrows, joys etc. that relate to that person. This may take many, many letters that may or may not ever be mailed. The main thing is to get the painful, uncomfortable and even joyful feelings out into the open and onto paper. As you write, the intensity of the unhappy feelings (anger, sorrow, fear) will gradually fade and lose their grip on you. This is called 'venting' and is important to let the repressed, stuffed down feelings come out and be honored by writing them down. As painful stuff dissolves, loving things may come to take their place and you might feel real love for the person you were unhappy with before.
2007-12-02 18:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your family troubles. I say that if writing her a letter would make you feel better about the situation, then by all means, do it! It is a positive step towards having a relationship w/ her, although it may never be what you wish it could be. I say go for it, you never know until you try right? Best of luck.
2007-12-02 17:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by *ladybug* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to your mom of what had happen, but now it is the past. You done the right thing to move out. He was a total jerk. Since he had done that to you he may be now unfaithful to your mother. Your mom has handle it herself.
Write a nice letter to your mom. You can have it deliver by Fedex or U.P.S. where your mother has to show her I.D. and sign for it or send it to her work. Despite the fail marriage between your parents she is still your mom. God bless.
2007-12-02 17:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for me, it would be at its best if you would talk to your mom. go to a place where it is only you and her. talk to her. explain yourself. listen to her heart. the both of you needs to settle things and fix it. for you are her daughter and she is your mother and no one can change that. i find talking to her personally is a lot better than having a written communication and it's a lot heart warming for you will be able to communicate really well with thoughts and feelings directly expressed. you can do it. =) pray and ask for god's help that he will restore your relationship as mother and daughter.
god bless! =)
2007-12-02 18:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by 1:57 PM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to write her to let her know what you just wrote here tell her you would love to have some form of a relation ship but you need to feel it out first ,, then you should ask her to maybe go to lunch and spend a day together, just talk and go from there.
2007-12-02 17:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋