why do children think its ok to swear at their parents?

Question

when i was a child i would never swear at my parents still wouldnt ( its called having respect ) so why do teenagers now think its ok to tell their parents to go away ( but not so polite ) when you bring them up the same way your parents bought you up

Answer 1

I have never once in my life sworn at my parents, for me it's a matter of respect

Answer 2

Obviously you must see a different world than I do. I know one person who would cuss out their parents out of the rediculous number of teenagers I happen to know, and they have a very good reason. Swearing hasn't gotten worse as time goes by, you just see it more often because our communications have found ways of growing to massive proportions and so we see it more often. If your kid is swearing at you it either means you're a bad parent, a hypocrite who swears in front of them or there's something going on in their life you haven't seen.

Oh, and as for the people towards more child discipline:
Mind what you're saying. Just because some people spoil their children doesn't mean there aren't proper parents out there. You just have to turn off the TV and take a look outside for once, because you won't learn anything about children these days if you don't go and figure them out face-to-face.

Answer 3

Two things. One, society has brainwashed parents into thinking that discipline is a crime. When I was brought up, if I even looked at my parents sideways, I would've had major consequences ( a beat down). Now society is pushing that physical punishment (whippings) is not discipline and it's wrong. Therefore, kids know that they can say/do what they want because if their parents whip them, then they can cry child abuse. I don't believe that whippings are the correct punishment for everything, but if a child opens there mouth to curse at their parent, then they need a gentle reminder (smack in the mouth) of who they are speaking to.

Two, kids aren't taught respect anymore. Children will do what they are allowed to do. Parents are more concerened with uspetting their children instead of teaching their kids right from wrong. Parents still have to be able to establish that they are still the parent and not a buddy.

Answer 4

It's a matter of respect for each other - not just the child having respect for the parent.

Is it okay for the parent to swear at the kids?

Sometimes the kids need to know that their parents do value their thoughts and ideas (even if its way "out there") - it a matter of having a relationship with your kids not all about controlling them. - Try to remember when you were their age.

I tried to keep this in mind as I was raising my son. He has grown into a brilliant 27 yo man that is genuine and respectful to all people (I wondered & worried when he was 15 & 16) but we got past that!

Bottom Line: treat others as you would like to be treated. It really works.

Answer 5

It's not the same though. Times have changed. the world is a rougher place, and kids are not disciplined in the same way. Unfortunately, thats the way things go. I think all teenagers feel its ok to cuss out their parents, honestly. It kind of goes with the hormonal territory. Dont take it personally, but I would be concerned if it starts escalating. That may mean other issues are to blame, besides the hormones and attitude problem.

Answer 6

There are 2 reasons in my view....

1. They are just trying to see how far they can push their parents. If they are told off in no uncertain terms they will not to it again.. if they are laughed at they will be encouraged to keep on doing it.

2. The parents swear 24/7 and it comes as second nature to the whole family. I have a friend who swears every second word..... she calls her daughters b*tches and worse. These teens now have the worse language I have heard in ages... but I blame the parents for allowing it and not being able to stop themselves using that language with the kids.

Answer 7

Some parents don't require the respect of their children. Children need to be guided and taught with a balance of love and consistent discipline. I have toddlers and I will be shocked if either one of them ever swears at me. Even though they are young, I do not allow them to sass me without consequences. I'm not here to be their friend, I'm here to raise them to be a well-adjusted adult. When my 4 yo argues with me because he doesn't want to do something, my response is "I'm the boss, when you're an adult, then you will be the boss and make your own decisions."

Swearing is more pervasive culturally, it's not as taboo as it once was. And if parents swear at their kids--well, there you are. Kids deserve respect too. Don't be a hypocrite.

It's hard work raising kids! I pray every day for wisdom, love and patience.

Answer 8

Kids today get away with too much. Parents are so caught up in giving them the life they never had and the kids are spoiled. Also today both parents normally work outside the home so when the parents are at home, they give in to the kids to keep the peace. They don't discipline them like they should. Once a kid swears at his or parent and isn't punished, then they will do it more and more.

Answer 9

Not all kids think it's okay. To begin with, kids will imitate what they are raised around. Unfortunately, foul language and disrespect is everywhere these days, be it at home, on TV, or at school. Second, I think many parents have lost the upper hand when it comes to discipline and are letting their kids runs things. Parents: it is LEGAL and perfectly acceptable to punish your children, and/or spank them until they reach the age of 18. It's not child abuse; it's called discipline. Sadly, many parents are afraid to discipline their children, so when a child disrespects their parent's, there are no consequences.
I have two boys, and neither of them disrespect me, their father, or any other adult; any person for that matter. This is because when they were little, if they talked back, screamed at us, said "No" when we asked them to do something, or smart-mouthed us, they got spanked and put in timeout/grounded. They learned there were consequences to inappropriate behavior; and that you will be treated the way you treat others.
And let me tell you, to this day, and even beyond, if either of them were to mouth off to me, I wouldn't hesitate to spank them; Idon't care how old they are. :)

Answer 10

Children are influenced by the things around them. Some of the influences include school, friends, TV, etc.- not just family. I think that in general there is an unnecessary communication break down between parents and children, and especially adolescents. I would say that the entire problem isn't about the use of profanity. But, something else is lacking in that relationship.

Answer 11

Today we've become a lot less formal and polite. In my household, not only do I swear at my mom, she swears right back. Now, not all parents tolerate this, but today, children are punished much less for disrespect. Spare the rod, spoil the child, so to speak. With the change in methods of punishment has come a change in regular interactions with our guardians and other superiors. The less strict = less respect. Also, as others are allowing their children to do so, we've come to see it as the norm for our time. We see it on television and next door. Sad but true.