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We've talked to each for quite some time. (about 7 months) and things are not progressing. He just recently got out of a bad relationship and he is one of those really sensitive guys so i think he is fearful of being hurt, so he guards his hear. Well anyway, I asked him if there is a chance of us having more than just a friend ship and he said....

Me:I mean if you tell me that there is a possibility of this going somewhere.. then i would not think twice about waiting.

im so destructive towards the things i care for most in life lately. let this settle and become part of our relationship
and see how it works things no rash choices

Me:so you would be destructive towards me?!?

i would be a prick, i would say things i dont mean, i would take away something that could be taken from me

not in a hurtful way

or harmful

honestly

it would be because of me, i would take away something wonderful, because I am not about to lose it.

What's does he mean take away something wonderful??

2007-12-02 16:39:30 · 2 answers · asked by lesh 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

2 answers

Hard to say, maybe he just means he would ruin the relationship if you became intimate. Some people sabotage the very things they really want. Recently I split with a guy who said much the same things. He had been hurt and was afraid to connect in any but a superficial friendship. I knew he was afraid to be hurt or to take a chance on ruining another relationship, but he claimed to "have nothing left" for me.
After a year with him, I couldn't handle the stress of caring for a man who was trying so hard not to care for me. I knew that inside he wanted to, but when he slipped and was tender and caring, he immediately began to snarl and snap as if trying to push me away. Maybe your friend is referring to doing something similar in a relationship.
I think men build walls, not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to break them down. It is just such an effort to keep trying, when you don't know if they really want you to or not....plus you have needs beyond friendship that are not being met, and someone wonderful may be waiting just around the corner.

2007-12-02 17:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0 0

He's not ready for a relationship and/or he just wants to be friends.

2007-12-02 16:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle C 1 · 0 0

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