Two weeks into this relationship he started pressuring her to say 'I love you' & when she wouldn't he got mad.They talked about it & she thought he understood that she wasn't ready yet.A week later he brought it up again.When she still couldn't say it he broke up with her by calling, saying 'it's over', and hanging up.Five minutes later (literally) he called back & said 'scratch that; we're still together'.Then he called again & broke up with her. He went back & forth between dating her & not for 30 min. over the phone.Then they 'worked everyting out'.Less than a week after, he changed his facebook status to single.She saw it & freaked out.He called several hours later & told her it was over.She said she loved him in order to keep him (she admitted that).Then, they decided to talk the next day about it.They did & decided to end it.Several hours later they talked again & she took him back.He came over 30 min. later & said he couldn't be with her.She begged him to stay with her & he did.
2007-12-02 16:31:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's 19 and he's a year older. He's already told her to stop talking to a couple of her guy friends and has told her he thinks she wants to be with someone else and that's why she won't say I love you. I've told her this relationship is unhealthy and she's being dumb. So have a bunch of her other friends. She won't listen to it. I don't have much relationship experience, so I don't think she's taking me seriously and I also think she just doesn't want to be alone (she's had four boyfriends this year, one immediately after another (next day or two after). If I'm right and it's dumb to stay with him, is there a way I can make her see that?
2007-12-02 16:59:15 · update #1
It's over loser is what she should say to a guy that treats her like that. If a guy pressures you into doing stuff you are not comfortable with then they will only do it will worse stuff later.
2007-12-02 16:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Viking799 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is either in high school or he's Trouble and Dangerous ( and not the sexy kind--more like the beat the sh*t out of you and give you flowers the next day).
Anyone who pressures someone to say "I love you" after 2 weeks is incredibly immature and has no idea how adult relationships work or is insecure & controlling. If he's insecure and controlling, the next steps in his MO will be to start separating her from her friends and family, following her every where and accusing her of fooling around with other men. Then it's sudden violent rages, throwing things, "accidently" shoving her, maybe hitting her. and then it escalates from there.
Tell her to dump him.
2007-12-02 16:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she "Your Friend" sounds like she thinks that she deserves to be "damped" over and over again. How old are you guys? Let her play with her life. She will learn from her mistakes, if she is not a completely dumb, if she is a completely dumb, you can't change her, sweetie.
2007-12-02 16:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to punch the little freak in the face.
He's getting on my nerves... she is too.
Think you could help her find someone who actually cares about her emotions and feelings and all that good stuff?
I think it'd help a lot.
Its really sad how people are attracted to people who treat them like garbage.
2007-12-02 16:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by Devan! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those two don't need to be together, it sounds like to me that both of them lack the maturity to be in a relationship.
2007-12-02 16:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by ARTY 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say break up..sounds like a messed up relationship though..annoyin seriously.
2007-12-02 16:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Hrscrzy4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey...
actually for this kind of relationship....i will stop seeing this guy and cancel everything to do with him because it is pointles trying to hang out with this kind of guy who cannot makes up his mind and is putting more and more pain onto your friend...but since your friend is serious about him...i suggest you leave the choice to her to see what she wants to do with her life...
help me say good luck to her...
only time will tell...
2007-12-02 16:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Aki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that guy needs to figure stuff out before he is ready to date. dump and find a guy that is more mature.
2007-12-02 16:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Spitfire 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bad situation.. Who knows, he might become possessive of her..
She shouldn't stay with him !
2007-12-02 16:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Margie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should find some one else, that guy is a nutcase.
2007-12-02 16:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋