My parents caught my brother and I fooling around, they want us to go to church and confess. But I am too embarrassed, will the priest judge me? Will he be kind? I have never had to confess something like this before. I am nervous, any help is appreciated.
2007-12-02 16:29:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is a very difficult situation to be in. Priests are not there to judge, they are there to grant forgiveness on behalf of Jesus who said "Thou art Peter and upon this rock I will build my Church (Peter means rock) and the gaits of hell shall not prevail against it. Who's sins you shall forgive, they are forgiven".
That being said, "sins" related to sex are the most difficult to confess. Many priests are educated in areas of psychology and human sexuality (especially the younger ones). What happened in your situation is really not abnormal at all. Teenage guys do experiment - it's a fact of life. A compassionate priest should understand that and understand that it's really embarrassing for you to have to tell him what happened.
Some priests are fine with a simple statement like "I've had impure thoughts and have been impure with my body and with someone else" and they leave it at that and grant you absolution.
You might want to think about how you could explain the situation in a very simple way without going into all the details.
The moral question for you is to consider if you feel you sinned and are in need of confession/forgiveness. That's what God is really interested in, not what your parents say.
I'd say Jesus knows you are a good person. Since he died for us, we have already been forgiven. Remember Jesus also said "Judge not lest ye be judged". So it would not be right for the priest to judge you if you do decide to tell him.
I imagine your brother might be as embarrassed as you are. You might want to talk to him about how he is going to handle this too. He's going to need your support.
Something sort of like this happened to a friend of mine and his father insisted that he go to confession. He was upset about it for months. Getting this behind you will relieve your worries about it. But it's really your choice.
2007-12-02 16:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Markietellme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assalamualikum (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon you)
Even though the question was directed to a Christian, I feel obliged to answer what Islam says about repentance.
Firstly, let me inform you that Islam does not believe in confession i.e, when you commit a sin u got the church and confess to the father the sin u committed, and hence your sins will be washed away. Islam does not believe in this.
Conditions for the acceptance of repentance
The word tawbah (“repentance”) conveys a profound meaning, one which carries great implications. It is not, as many people think, the matter of mere lip-service, after uttering which a person may then continue in his sin. If you ponder the meaning of the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “… Seek the forgiveness of your Lord, and turn to Him in repentance…” [Al-Qur'an, Hood 11:3], you will see that repentance is something which is over and above seeking for forgiveness.
Such a great and important matter must necessarily have conditions attached to it, they include:
1.Immediate cessation (ceasing or stopping) of the sin.
2.Regret for what is past
3.Determination not to return to the sin
4.Restitution of victims’ rights, or seeking their forgiveness
In Islam one is promissed that all his past sins(only sins) will be washed away at the time of him accepting Islam.
So, if you were a Muslim you need not worry about being embarrassed as you need not confess to anybody but to Allah.
And Allah Knows Best.
2007-12-02 17:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by Shaik Abdul Cader Dawood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confessions... Ok for people who are religious I heard god forgives everything except if you say his name in vane or refer to him badly... something like that... so the priest should go by that, shouldnt he? and from what i have seen on tv (i have never really gone to a church... a couple of times when i was put into scripture by accident!) they have confession booths where you cant see your identity. muffle your voice with a hat or something... and be upfront and honest. pretend toyr worries and nervousness are in a tight black ball inside you. outside, there is a white glowing ball of relaxation and ease. throw up that nervous ball, but it in an imaginary box and forget about it, and swallow that white ball, and imagine the white relaxing light all around you.
this helps me, i do it often. good luck.
2007-12-02 20:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are of the Catholic faith. You can go to confession but only if you are truly repentent...sorry, want forgiveness and do not plan to do this again. the priest is not allowed to judge you but if you are not ashamed and sorry for what went on...going to confession and saying a few hail Mary's is not going to do anything to help you. You should not be fooling around with your brother to begin with.
2007-12-02 16:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confess all your sins. no longer something to cover... as nicely, the priest would desire to no longer even remember you nor your sins after the absolution, cus there's a protracted line waiting that he has dealt with.
2016-11-13 08:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you truly repent. If you do want to, the Bible says to "Repent and be baptized, everyone of you, for the forgiveness of sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit." Acts 2:38
A priest is no longer a go between, since Jesus is now our mediator. He is the only one who can stand in your defense.
2007-12-02 16:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by kc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confess what? And what is the priest going to do about your "sin"? Eat it?
Stay away from churches.
2007-12-02 16:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Just don't confess that. If your parents force you to go, just confess to telling someone to shut up, or not doing your chores, or something simple like that.
There's absolutely no reason that you should have to divulge such a thing to anyone, let alone a priest who will almost certainly judge you.
2007-12-02 16:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you are supposed to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed before confession, if not than you'll have to question why you are confessing and what it really is you feel sorry for.
2007-12-02 16:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What sin? Jesus took away your sin on the cross. Your priest didn't do it and can't take it away because one; Jesus already did it, and two; your priest doesn't have the power to take your sin away. Jesus is Lord, Christ is King!!!
2007-12-02 16:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by son of God 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋