do you think i am sick?

Question

here is my situation, since i came in this country, i have been sick for more than a year now and the main problem has been a stomach problem until some illness follow.i have done so many stomach tests including an intestinal (endoscope) test but all the results came negative that suprised me till now cos the stomach is still burping and bloating plus a throat problem now. Now there comes back pain, handache that pains only at the left side, chest pain that comes and go, weakness and all i want to do is sleeping, lack of appetite but sometimes just wana eat too much but can
't feel i am full. i did soo many blood tests and all proved nothing, now the problem is i want to quit school and go back to my country but since i said this, many people are saying i am not real sick, even the doctors. They are saying is because i am not happy and don't wana appreciate the local things and always think 2 much which is true in my case.
i dont go out most of the time cos i am shy en always pissed.

off for nothing serious en alway feel bad when i go out cos everyone is just starring at me. I use to get pissed off for nothing two years ago and now i am becoming sensitive everyday cos my heart jumps and i start panting very fast when my fone rings or somebody knock the door. I don't have a girlfriend and always thinking of getting one but since i am getting shyer everyday, i can't get one even though i stay with some of the hottest chicks on earth but ends up leaving me without saying a word. Now the main problem is whether to quit school or not cos most of the time i don't feel like studying anymore and everybody is just saying i am not happy and should change. what are your inputs you guys out there?

i don't real think is homesick cos being around my family pisses off more but if you ask me why, i just don't know.

Answer 1

Common problems from long term stress. What you need is a relationship partner, a friend, someone who can listen to you. What you also need to do is stop worrying and start living. Go out more, free yourself your own way. You don't have to be the center of every party, it's just as good if you are just there, as long as you enjoy it.

Enjoy life

Answer 2

I have recently returned to the USA to visit after living in Scandinavia for 2 years and have had many of the problems you just described. I have discovered that American food is high in fat, salt and calories and if I stay away from the extra fat and salt I feel better. I was very ill in Denmark where I live and that was due to stress. Living in a new country is stressful, going to college is stressful ( I am assuming that is where you are but even high school is stressful) You are having an experience that many people never get to have and it helps to count your blessings, take better care of yourself, use local home remedies from your youth to alleviate some of your symptoms, drink water instead of soda pop and take a multivitamin if you can. Get enough rest and enjoy your experience instead of fighting it. It sounds a lot like stress to me but I am not a doctor. Chest pain is no joke and don't ignore your symptoms by any means but try to adjust and count your blessings. You will be home soon enough and have culture shock all over again. Its OK to be homesick. It is not OK to let it rule your life. Make a regular commitment to phone, write or email your family and friends and let them know how you feel and how much you miss them. Try to be brave and hang on. It does get easier.

Answer 3

You are experiencing so many new things and it is very difficult to adjust. The drinking water, how food is prepared, the environment and it's pollutants will all affect your body.
How you feel about being here, missing your home and what you are used to is very hard on your emotions.
You have to make a decision. Let go of the anger, look around at what you might like to do and reach out a little to get to know the people around you. Or quit and go home to deal with the reactions there. Either way, you will have to deal with some negative things in order to be happy again.
Good luck to you!

Answer 4

It sounds like you may have something that is unusual or uncommon here in the States.
Here's a little suggestion.
Try to find a dr who is from your country.
Here's what you do.
Call a local hospital, ask for a social worker. Explain you're from ____ and have a problem. Do they know of a doctor who is also from --- and do they have his number.
We have neighbors who are Vietnamese. They had a problem and were getting nowhere. Finally, they found a Vietnamese doctor. BAM! Problem solved.
He had a problem which was common in his home country ('Nam) but seldom seen here.The dr caught onto it and zoomed right in on it.
Good luck.

Answer 5

if you are so unhappy here that you are having serious illness, that that is a reasonaly sickness and a reasonble cause of concern, if you cannot find within in your self, what it will take foryou to be happy here then maybe you should go home. but think full and hard about the consequenses if you will be greatly unpleased with your self in your future and you don't make it stick, find some kind of church, a place of worship or a loving support group to help you through this tough time.

Answer 6

did you seek for a second opinion?try going to a different doctor and maybe have yourself checked up from head to toe (executive check-up).or maybe,it's what you call "phantom pain" the pain is not really there but it's in your mind.i think that's not what it's called.there's another term for that,i think,but i forgot grrrr.it may be just in your mind.try relaxing maybe a bit.or during vacation from school try going home and see if the symptoms disappear.maybe due to stress your stomach just produces a lot of acid that causes the problem.and maybe you're kind of depressed that's why you feel backpain or chestpain.but it shouldn't be ignored.go see another doctor.

Answer 7

Are you sad? Do you think its possible that you might be depressed? Maybe join some social clubs at school. Somewhere where you might meet someone that you have something in common with. You need to bring some joy and some life into your world. Maybe seek treatment for social anxiety. There are some great meds out there.

Answer 8

If all the test came back negative then I think you might be home sick to the point where you are making yourself sick. Try and make good friends, go shopping, swimming, join a church, gym or another group that you might be interested in. Keep busy and enjoy where you are. Keep your homeland in your heart and gain what you can here to benefit you later if you decide to return.

Answer 9

Well, have the doctors refer you to a therapist or something, maybe you are just homesick, but you should be better after a year, do you have any friends???

Answer 10

You could be severly homesick or under alot of stress so i would try to do something to calm your nerves if that doesnt help then i would find other doctors