2007-12-02 16:05:37 · 4 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. If you are going to put yourself out there having casual sex, then you should be mature enough to handle the potential emotional side of things. If you find yourself getting jealous, then the two of you need to either discuss taking your relationship to a more commitment-oriented level, or stop having sex altogether.
2007-12-02 16:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a 'should' thing. It's a "do you?" thing. As if we can turn feelings off by simply telling ourselves we shouldn't be having them. This looks great on paper but people just don't seem to work this way.
People are creatures of attatchment. We get attatched to those things which give us pleasure, sexual or otherwise. So, even if sex didn't carry any special weight we would still get attatched to our sex partners if we saw them enough times. But sex DOES carry special weight. This is why rape is a much more serious crime than slapping somone in the face. In both cases the person was violated. But in the case of sex, one of the most intimate parts of a person was violated. And the emotional damage is greater.
I can't tell you how many times I've experienced(personally and friends) where they couldn't keep it casual. Despite best efforts, feelings of attatchment, affection and romance always creep in, and someone gets jealous or wants more or they just have to avoid each other for a while because they get uncomfortable. And they struggle with these feelings because they're against the rules of casual sex. We can make all sorts of rules that are supposed to work but they don't change who we are.
2007-12-03 19:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, in this case you shouldn't be jealous.
If you find you are feeling jealous, then you are developing feelings for them (or they are for you if they are the one who is jealous). If you find that you have feelings for them and want to explore that further in an exclusive relationship, then be honest and tell them your feelings. If they aren't interested and only want the casual sex, then it's time for you to stop the casual sex, because you'll just mess yourself up emotionally.
2007-12-03 00:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no right to be. That's what guys love about casual r'ships.
2007-12-03 00:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋