Do all men really want to cheat?

Question

If you google it, basically everything comes up that men always want to cheat and at some point do cheat and they act like it's some natural urge men have. At least they're being more fair and saying women are just as likely now. But I mean come on, all that biological crap, not all animals run around mating with anything they can get, penguins pick one partner for life! And marriage has been around for a thousand years! Really now aren't there guys out there who truely love their wife/girlfriend and would never cheat or even think of cheating on her? Do you think it's really as bad as they say?

Answer 1

My parents have been married for years. Neither would cheat on the other.
A lot of people like to give into the 'carnal desires' the media keeps shoving on us and trying to make a part of our lifestyle, however many men are above this.
I find in any relationship, whether romantic or platonic, there really are a lot of thorns you have to go through to get to the roses. In other words, don't rush into things, use your judgement, learn to be a good judge of character and know the difference between love and lust (respect for disagreements or complete worship). Keep in mind, we really only have a couple of true 'friends' in our lifetime... so if it's so hard to find a good friend, it's not going to be easy to find a good lover... but it is certainly not impossible.

Answer 2

Cheating really has more to do with the Cheater rather than the Cheat-ee - some egos have a hole that they are trying to fill- and subconsciously or consciously they feel entitled to more attention, affection, affirmation... It has nothing to do with love- it's really more about self-loathing, and perceived needs versus actual needs. When men or women cheat- they know it's wrong, and it's wrong because hurting someone else is never good for yourself. Some people live in a deeper state of denial than others. They may rationalize cheating by telling themselves that they deserve tru love or happiness- but both of those start from within. Love is a choice- so is happiness, and you can distract yourself with new people or experiences, but sooner or later you catch up to yourself and then you have to start all over again or fix the problem.

Answer 3

Nope. I'm a man, and honestly have no desire to cheat on my girlfriend. And I'm sure there are plenty of other men out there who are the same way. I guess that, for men who do cheat, "It's a natural urge that all men have", makes a convenient excuse. Though on the other hand, there may be some biological influence that gives some men more control over impulses than others. Human beings represent a kind of new stage in evolution, where focus is shifted more toward reasoning than instinct (instinct in this case being "I gotta bang anything with a vagina"), and I think some of us have made that leap a little more successfully than others.

Answer 4

since when does google "tell the truth?" It is just a bunch of arbitrary links to arbitrary web pages. There is no guarantee at all that anything on the web pages is fact-checked or has any scientific value. it may or may not. one never knows.

Now that this is out of the way - relax. Representative surveys (that reflect the population at large) suggest that the tendency of married men to cheat on their partner is slightly higher than that of married women, by about 8 percentage points. The tendency to cheat differs between cultures (countries).

There are many reasons why men (or women) cheat. You cannot simply treat all cheaters alike (though the effects can be equally painful). If you want to see more facts about cheating, you know where to look: in the library (not the internet).

Answer 5

I think our society as a whole is falling apart in the department of loyalty and commitment.

I myself have never cheated. And I look down upon ALL of those who do, no matter what the "excuse", reasoning, state of drunkenness, etc. etc. etc. Honestly, I've had a great friend of mine tell me that he's cheated before...and I've thought less of him ever since.

But let's not limit this to just guys, now. I believe girls as well as guys are just as bad, these days. More often, they'll be the ones to use the "ohhh, I just got too drunk, and didn't know what I was doing....." excuse. That is a BS excuse, because if you're in an environment and around people of the opposite sex, where anyone with common sense could even abstractly think of a situation where one-thing-could-lead-to-another if alcohol gets involved - YOU SHOULDN'T even START drinking!!! But yes, girls cheat on purpose as well.

I look down upon ALL those who cheat. Sadly, however, I believe it's coming to be more and more common in society. Media to blame? Lack of morals taught by parents and peers? General characteristic of laziness and greed? I believe all of these factor into why this happens. I think we as a society WANT EVERYTHING, and DON'T WANT ANY RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR ACTIONS when it comes to attempting to obtain everything.

But it's very nice to see that a couple people out there still care about being committed to just one partner. Unfortunately, it's hard to spot and find them out there. And even then, those who seem faithful.......but that's a different story altogether, and personal. I don't wanna scare all you love-birds out there, so I'll keep my horror story to myself...

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I WILL admit however... the TEMPTATION is always FELT. Just because we're committed, doesn't mean we aren't human, and are 100% immune from seeing a female (or male, if you're a female) other than our partner, and having a brief moment of fantasy or day-dream. This in itself is natural, and there isn't 1 male or female who could say otherwise. It's how quickly - and to what degree - we act to subside that thought and re-assert ourself to being loyal to our partner which determines our loyalty. I myself believe that it should be SECONDS from encountering the temptation. Obviously some men (and women) think otherwise.

I think this is somewhat attributable to the whole "freedom and independent, strong, confident" attitude our generation has grown up experiencing. It creates an invincible feeling, where someone may think that flirting is ok, as long as it doesn't go too far....but slowly and surely, their definition of "too far" gets pushed further and further away, until they're too far involved, that they "can't" resist any longer.

Answer 6

Social scientists will tell you that women are just as, if not more, promiscuous than men. My late wife cheated on me. Does the line, "never slept in the same bed twice" give you an idea? But..... Don't ever let on that you have not been brainwashed by the opinions of media personalities and commentators. Look up "Dr. Tatiana's Sex Advice to All Creation" on the internet and find out just how "normal" human males really are.

Answer 7

Wait a minute... you changed the question. You tempted me... not fair!

Yes, men want to cheat. It's called temptation, and temptation is normal.

Now, as for those who give in to the temptation... otherwise know as sin... they're know as jerks. And they are as bad as they say.

Humans are not brutes, Kate. Brutes react to stimulation naturally... thus animals mate during mating season. There is no temptation because there is no free will. Humans are rational, intelligent beings with free wills. However, when men (and women) make the free will choice of cheating, then they are acting (and choosing to be) like brutes.

Also, animals are guiltless. Humans who cheat feel no guilt, either... unless they're caught. Then they become beggars... of forgiveness. In other words, they become the sorriest creatures on earth.

Answer 8

Not all men cheat. And somewhere along the way society will get through this faze of wanting and just doing. It seems like every t.v. show and movie has spouses cheating or almost cheating. I think once they stop all the publicity in the media, ppl will begin to see that marriage is something that you have to work out. Going to get laid somewhere else isn't going to help.

Just think, if everyone only had one partner their would be no STD's. WOW!!

Answer 9

Thinking about cheating and seriously considering cheating are two different things. I know that I've wondered about it, but I would never cheat on my husband. I have three close guy friends, one of whom tells me everything about his sex life, and another who only tells me some things. The second, I know that he cheated on his girlfriend. His reason? Unhappy with the relationship, but he's too comfortable with the way it is and won't break up with her. The first doesn't feel the need to cheat. He and his wife have a good relationship with fantastic communication.

Answer 10

There are a lot of men who are moral and would never cheat. There are also men who are too insecure in their sexuality to cheat. Men don't all think with their gonads.

I've been married to the same man for more years than I care to mention. Neither of us have cheated. We made promises at the alter, which we've kept in good times and bad. And we'll stay faithful and together for the rest of our lives. I honestly don't think we're unique in this.

Cheats are usually immature kids, who think sex is some sort of adventure. It's a shame. No, I don't think it's as bad as 'they' say. Rest easy!