I know I asked this not long ago, but there are a few things I wanted to add, and see if that affects people's answers. I'd just edit it in, but so many people answered, it'd get lost.
I have a mild form of OI.
The only way it really affects me now that I am an adult are that I have a noticeable limp, and am kinda short . Flights of stairs are a little hard, and sometimes I need an arm to lean on.
I can't run or jump. Other than that, I can bowl, dance, take walks, drive, and do any other physical activity (including sex).
I've overcompensated by being an overachiever. I've always thought I had to try extra hard if I was going to find love and be happy. I graduated from a fine university with a degree in the double major or pre med and biology. If all goes well, I'll be a doctor in 4 years. I already work as a medical researcher.
I just still doubt its good enough. So what are your thoughts? Any girl out there who'd date a guy like me? Or is the limp a big deal?
2007-12-02 15:32:59 · 38 answers · asked by IrishFan2011 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the inside's all that counts....
2007-12-02 15:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is not a big deal. It seems you have a great personality and that can overcome a lot. I dated a guy who had been in a moped accident and a huge chunk of his leg was missing at the calf. He walked with a crutch (metal one that wraps around the arm) and he had a limp. I loved him. After a while of knowing him, the limp and cane were not even noticeable after a while.
Don't worry so much and take time to have fun! The right girl will come along.
2007-12-02 15:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone really loves you than they dont care if you have a disability or not. The right girls will care about how you are on the inside. So you have a limp, so what? It's also a really big plus you graduated from university. It shows you got some skills. If you have a good personality girls will love you! Be more confident and believe in yourself! Hope you find someone special!!
2007-12-02 15:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by foreverisalongtime 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you already found that it turns girls away? If you need to ask the question than I guess the answer must be that it has deterred some girls. But honestly I don't think it seems like a big deal. Maybe you're having dating trouble because of your approach and not at all because of a physical limitation. Maybe try asking some girls around you what their thoughts are and you can put a finger on exactly what is the problem.
2007-12-02 15:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by summer 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who is affected by the limp (in a bad way) is superficial, and you wouldn't want a relationship with a superficial gal anyway!
So, you have limitations.
The hottest guy I've ever met in person was in a wheelchair (on a basketball league). If he didn't already have a girlfriend... ;)
Serious...there are so many other things to consider, besides a limp.
2007-12-02 15:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so sweet. I would definitely date you if I weren't married already. Have you ever heard the saying, "You are your own worst critic?" We all have something that doesn't seem "right" about us. You are probably aware of this more than others. You sound very hard on yourself. You've got a lot of attractive qualities about you and it sounds like some girl would be very lucky to have you. So, chin up. The limp is no big deal...Really.
2007-12-02 15:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by karly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The limp would not bother me at all. I would understand that you have your limitations and I would respect them. I do have one problem though. I am a very active person who is always on the run, so it may be difficult for me, but I would still try to make it work as best I could.
2007-12-02 15:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♣ALT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is someone for everyone in this world. We all have disabilities some are just seen and others are in the inside. I think a woman would be glad to date you and not just because you are going to become a doctor. I am knock kneed and pigeon toed and it doesn't seem to bother my husband a bit in fact he never says anything about it. I hope you find the girl of your dreams that will knock your socks off.
2007-12-02 15:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can dance????????? you're a keeper.......
There's a girl out there for you. Yes for some stuck up girls it would be a problem. But I do believe that when you aren't looking for someone special, they'll come a knocking. (you know what I mean.)
As long as you don't have a hag up about it. And always talk about it when you're on a date. If you're a nice guy, and treat the girl or woman you're with good. you should have no problem.
2007-12-02 15:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised you haven't found someone yet.
I mean yeh, dating or marrying someone with OI would be scary that they could hurt them self taking the trash out but opposed to living with an undiagnosed bipolar? I'd be happy to take the trash out every day!
Don't beat yourself up, just put your limitations up front and I'm sure the right person will come along and discover your strengths.
2007-12-02 15:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Hk9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't want to be friends with or go out with you because you have a limp they are deffinetly not worth associating with. Take your time, be yourself and stop acting like your in a competition and youll meet someone that will love you for who you are.
2007-12-02 15:40:37 · answer #11 · answered by D S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋