These days, do you think it is more important for the man or the woman to pay on dates? The first date? All the other dates? I am wondering this because since women want so much more respect (I agree) then shouldn't they be treated the same as us? Thanks!
2007-12-02 15:09:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take turns.
Pay for the first date. On the second date, see if the girl will volunteer to pay. If she doesnt, dont ask her out again!
2007-12-02 15:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
First date should be paid for by the person who asks! A gesture should be made by the accepter of the invitation to pay. I think going dutch is a good way to start the "getting to know you" process.
After the first date, and the gettin to know you process... i think it should stick to.... whomever asks pays. If mutual decision dates are made... take turns.
My fiance is very old fashioned, and since date 1, he insists on paying. Sometimes i sneek my credit card to the waiter while hes in the bathroom, but its more of a joke than a demonstration of my power. To cover my end, i pay for other things... like when we stay in for "dates", i pay for groceries and the movies.
2007-12-02 15:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
circulate DUTCH. that's the only inoffensive option. that's ridiculous to *anticipate* him to pay merely because of the fact he's a guy. If he needs to pay, that's yet another project. in addition, that's ridiculous which you would be able to pay merely given which you're actually not the student. the two you chop up the invoice each and every of the time, or conform to take turns paying. And please do not stick to stupid regulations or video games. courting isn't a game. Do what feels proper. it is not important no count number if a guy asks a woman out or a woman asks a guy out. Please do not complicate the subject.
2016-10-10 03:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by fomby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a man should pay on the first date. In this day and age, men aren't always so truthful in their reasons for asking a women on a date.
Some men might be looking for just a "buddy" (if you get what I mean). By the man paying, I feel it's saying that you are worthy of his time.
If a man can't pay (or doesn't want to), it sort of saying your not worth HIS hard earned money.
I still believe things like paying on the first date should be left untouched.
There are certain dating traditions and gender roles that are still important in our society. When it comes to courting (dating and ultimately looking for a spouse), traditional ways are the best.
When my boyfriend and I first started dating, he paid for everything for the first 6-12 months. We've been dating for the past 3.5 years. After the year mark, we started taking turns paying for meals and activities. But, not in the beginning.
When I was younger, I dated a guy for a while. He asked me to pay on the 2nd date. I did (without questioning) and a week later he broke up with me. That's something to think about.
2007-12-02 15:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by J'adore 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
it is true, women want respect and want to be treated as equal. however, that doesnt throw chivalry out the window. lol i know as a female i love when a man takes the bill and is willing to pay for things we do together. dont get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with the woman paying at all. i just feel as if the man should take on this responsibilty perhaps more often. hope that makes sense!
2007-12-02 15:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by mrs. miller 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well the first date i think the men has to pay it wouldnt look right if the girl pay the first date....But if the girls want to pay other times you as a man say NO because its not correct for a lady to pay...
2007-12-02 15:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Im a bit old fashioned, so I have to say it does bother me a bit when a guys asks me for my number, invites me out, and then asks me to pay for dinner . I mean, if you're are asking me out then ts only fair that you should pay. A guys who pays for the first date shows me that hes a gentlemen and its likely that he'll get a second date. Although I dont mind going half and half, I dont really like paying for the first date.
2007-12-02 15:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If a woman doesn't pay her half on the first date, I do not call her for a 2nd date. Period.
You wanted equality? Guess what - you got it.
2007-12-02 15:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jacob 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
First date should be dutch, each person paying half the bill. If the relationship gets serious, he should pay for her... but that doesn't mean she can't treat him and pay for his as well sometimes.
2007-12-02 15:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
on the first date the guy should pay!!! but on the other dates it depends on how the other person feels about paying!!! maybe taking turns paying would work!!!
2007-12-02 15:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by i ♥ Sour Patch Kids! 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋