2007-12-02 14:50:25 · 24 answers · asked by * 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It really depends. I think that in some cases they can be good for worldly things such as money, connections, good name, etc. But I don't think it's right in a spiritual way. We aren't on earth to be miserable. I think we should get to choose who we marry, and that we should marry for love. An arranged marriage is often by force, and I don't think that is right either. But then again, in some cultures it is just a way of life. I don't really KNOW but my OPINION is that it's wrong. (Unless of course you love the person your marriage was arranged to, but who's that lucky?)
2007-12-02 15:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures they work, in others they are not accepted by younger people. I think one strength is the fact that the two people are driven to make it work, something people that choose each other often are not driven to do. I think that the commitment to marriage that is demonstrated in cultures that practice arranged marriages is to be commended while other features that show up sometimes, such as the repression of women are less admirable and should be eliminated from all marriages (since these are also present in some non arranged marriages and are not present is all arranged marriages)
2007-12-02 22:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by moonman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally i don't think it's a good idea. I wouldn't strap myself on to anyone i haven't known for a good while, at least one year, otherwise i may as well buy a lottery ticket
proponents of arranged marriage taut it's low divorce rate but it doesn't mean anything unless same results are obtained in free countries like the united states, when the marriage is also between free people that do not feel tied by culture to stick to a marriage no matter what.
2007-12-02 22:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by uz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is still in vogue in some countries. If the two sides have
seen each other and knowing a bit makes it easy to take a decision. But it looses the charm of meeting and living with a complete stranger and learn about him/her bit by bit, which is very interesting and challenging.
I was doing a job in KSA and when I returned on annual vacation for a month, my mother showed me an invitetion card. I could not believe it, but it was my marraige card. Upon
my protest that I have not even seen the girl, she showed me
a photograph. A normal ordinary girl of 22 years. I said she
was not so beautiful. I was told that she is 5.5, slim and 22 years old and beauty is only skin deep.
As everything was already decided, I could not make much fuss without upsetting my parents. So I agreed and married
a girl which I had never seen. But the process of discovering each other and making one more palatable for the other kept us going. Its like discovering a new continent, bit by bit, tree by tree, mountain by mountain.
Over 20 years down the lane, we have four kids who go away
every day and we find some time to enjoy each other's company. So given a will to succeed, arranged marriages are
not that bad.
Javed Kaleem
2007-12-02 23:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents by virtue of their age and life experiences, would be expected to know what would make a good mate. They look for things the betrothed don't think of, like the other's family dynamics, the desire for children, is the potential mate a responsible provider or nurturer (depending upon gender) and can see these things and so many others that the young are too close and to naive to consider, so I think that an arranged marriage for adult children is a very good idea, with the adult child having some say in the process.
2007-12-02 22:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Seems to have been a lot more successful strategy than the one we currently favor!
Personally, I'd love it if someone would arrange a marriage for me! I'd have rebelled against that at 18, but looking back over a lot of years, I'm convinced that someone else could have done a FAR better job of picking a man for me than I ever did on my own!
2007-12-02 23:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by KAL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it and I wouldn't do it, but if both people involved are ok with it and aren't being forced into the marriage by their family I can't really make an objection to it. I may think it's archaic and wrong, but I'm a big supporter of the right of the individual to do what they want with their lives.
2007-12-02 23:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with it, as I believe that everyone should have the free will to choose who they want to devote their lives to. That decision should be yours, not anyone elses.
I realize that arranged marriages do happen, but I can't imagine having to live that way. I thankfully live in a free country where I am happily divorced.
2007-12-02 22:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think they are nothing more than a business arrangement. No love, no romance, just sign on the line. No thanks.
God Bless.
2007-12-02 22:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand the the divorce rate is low. However, this could be more cultural than the marriages actually being a good fit.
2007-12-02 22:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by c d 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋