have you ever had something like this happen while out to eat with your kids?

Question

have you ever been out to eat and have another person come to your table and ask you very meanly to shut your dam n kid up?this happen to us. eatting at a diner not lie a fancy place just a familey diner. anyway this old guy comes up and tells my mother in law to shut that damn kid up and spits on my bf nieces food it wa s realy gross . like spit flying all over the place. so my mom inlaw tells him to go sit back down and that hes just a toddler learning his voice. well the guy like i have a muscle problem shut that kid up NOW. then my mom inlaw goes i am sick too and if you are that ill you should stay home by now my bf niece who is 12 is scared i told her not to pay attion to it. so we eat our meal and just try to ignore this familey.
so i go to take our son out to the car while i am doing that i find out this guy chase down my bf mom and says more stuff to her . so
i am wondering have any one else have anything like this happen to you? or how to deal with people like this ?

i wanted to but my boyfriend was like oh but the guy is sick i told my boyfriend the guy is sick in the head. i would have understood if he just got the manger to ask us to try and calm our son down . but when a kid has to sing you cant stop the moment jk i was so stund never had this happen in my life ther are some crazy out there i guess

heres the thing when he got way to loud for what i judge as to loud my father inlaw walked him aroud. now there was this one familey like right behind my son who were laughing and saying you go boy and so my son kinda of was performing it was juts a night from hell i had toys and crayans lol i learned that my first time every taking him out gotta have the toys. but i honestly am one who knows and respects that others are there to eat in peace and i do try my best to remove myself and my son from a situation that might hurt or annoy others.
oh yeah the guy was like spitting it was coming out his mouth it was gross

i think we all just wanted to get out and not cause more of a scean you know what i mean oh beliveme after this i think we will be ordering out for awhile i think my son is at a stange where dinning out just cause more of ahead ach then what its worth lol. oh i didn't fnd my sons singing a toddler talking cute i just didn't think it was that loud for this guy to go crazy . but then again i am so used to this that to me it wasn't loud but to other it might have been a little much thats why i would not have had a problem if the manger would have come over and said something that would have been normal i just never ecpected some adult to go crazy and spraying spit on someones food. thank god my bf neice dosn't eat much . lessons learn trails of kids i guess

Answer 1

Wow -- that is awful! The minute he spit on the plate, you should have gone to the manager of the restaurant. Spitting on your food was an act of violence that needed to be reported. And when he went after your boyfriend's mother, the police should have been called.

Unfortunately, the man should have gone to the manager first, not directly to you. The manager could have handled this tactfully to everyone's satisfaction. A good manager would have explained that this was a family restaurant and that your child's voice, while loud, was still in the acceptable range (I'm assuming it was) and that if he had a problem, he could change tables. And if your child's voice was too loud, the manager could have tactfully asked you to soften the noise level.

The only time this happened to us was in a diner. And the people behind us stormed out of the restaurant. I didn't know why until the owner of the restaurant told us why. And when we apologized, he said, "Don't apologize. Your kids were fine. They were laughing and bringing joy to this restaurant. If the people behind you couldn't see that, then they don't belong here!" That was the owner that said that!

Anyway, I'm sorry you had to witness such an ugly scene.

Answer 2

While there is no excuse good enough to make what he did ok, I have been a little to near kids in a diner to know what you think of as cute and normal is not everbodies elses idea.

That said...he was insufferably rude and you should have called the manager and complained, at least had the food that was spit on replaced..ugh.

Answer 3

The guy was a total shithead and I would have complained to the manager and had him thrown out. And had him pay for a new meal for the one he spit on. Maybe even called the police.

Answer 4

were your children acting inappropriately or in any way interrupting another person's meal? if you can honestly answer "no", then blow the guy off. if your children were acting like normal kids, they may have interrupted another person. consider taking the mature stance and bringing things to keep the kids occupied, like snacks and small toys or crayons in the future. eat only at family friendly restaurants and remember that yours is not the only family in a restaurant.

Answer 5

I've never had that happen to me, but if it did, I would have called over the manager and then the cops on him. Spitting in your food is, essentially, assault. He had no right to do that.

Answer 6

No, I can't say this has ever happened to me. I would have immediately gotten the manager and had him or her deal with it, and if necessary, kick the guy out. If that didn't work, I would have called the police since the guy harassed you after you told him to leave you alone.

Answer 7

Spitting on or at someone is assault, you should have called the police immediately.

Answer 8

i would of called the cops and told him that he was harassing me.