Theres a guy that I really really like, and he likes me but the thing is he's a total womanizer and sleeps around and has never been in a relationship where he hasn't cheated. he told my best friend that he likes me and that he's going to change, but i dunno if he actually means it. Everyone is telling me that he's a creep and i shouldn't go out with him. what do you think?
2007-12-02 14:24:12 · 21 answers · asked by She 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he wants to make you next on his list. Stay as far away from that loser as you can get.
2007-12-02 14:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man with an open mind, sex is everything in a solid relationship, if you can't feel comfortable in the intamitcie of your relationship, it's not worth it. Being open minded and understanding where you stand is the most imortant issue. We all have the humane desisre of pleasure, and monogamy connot be inforced, it just happens. If one desires to be with an individual for one reson or another, you also need to understand their needs and desires. Example; If you went to dinner and had five cuorse meal and where completely full and could not put another item in your mouth, yet, you came home and your roommates made your favorte pie with a note that said "EAT ME", you're going to at least have a bite! So the humane reaction is a personal desision. So, if you or I were confronted with an (11) and wanted to take you home, you most likely will say yes. After all it's only one night, If the satisfaction is their between you and your other, the desision will be NO, (theirfor manogamy). Yet, it is your favorite dish, so, why not, IT'S ONLY A BITE. If you notice this indavdual going back to the same dish, there's a problem, if the person continues to have sex with other indaviduals (nympho), and you still love this person, well, maybe it's time to start swinging together with other people (have your cake and eat it too). If your other half came home at 8:00 in the morning and told you that they had an affair last night, without lying, you now understand that they can tell you anything and everything STRAIGHT UP. Then YOU can make the decision wheather to be monogamice, swing, or move on. Only you know what you want.
2007-12-02 23:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tahoe Knowledge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if he cheats once he'll cheat again, but the truth is there is no way of knowing for sure what will happen untill it happens. If you like this guy then go out with him, just be prepared for the fact that he may well cheat again. Set ground rules before hand and if he breaks them then cut him loose. Most importantly, don't trust your heart to him. Sometimes people really do change, but more often they don't, but that's no reason to not to give him a change, just make sure you only give him one. Yes, maybe he will turn out to be exactly the creep he seems to be, but then again maybe not. As long as you don't let yourself get attached you'll be fine if the relationship goes sour and who knows, you might have a bit of fun along the way.
2007-12-02 23:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by HeartSIN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell if he really means it. You have to be willing to take the chance and even to tolerate him slipping (getting involved with other women while he's with you) a few or more times.
The womanizers tend to be extra charming. With that charm comes the ability to say anything (lie) to win over the woman. Watch for a while and decide for yourself whether you really like him or whether your just buying into his all too practiced routine.
2007-12-02 22:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if some people really love someone they can commit to change, but i think he only has a crush on you. i dont think that he will completely change. maybe he will show it to you, but inside it is very difficult to change because that is the way we are. If you really like him, try it but be aware of what he does and what he used to do. He probably told your friend that so you can find oout(ofcorase she would tell you) be careful with him but if you like him, go for it and give it a try. hope i helped:]
2007-12-02 22:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People rarely change... and a guy with a multuple history of cheating, is likely to cheat again...
Why go through all that, find somebody else.....
2007-12-02 22:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't make a decision based on other people's opinions. if you think he will cheat on you, do you really want to waste your heart and love on him, if he won't do the same for you? relationships are a commitment, so just think if he is right for you. like isaid, this is just my opinion, but you should decide for yourself.
2007-12-02 22:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. Hook up with him, if you want, but you could and probably will end up as another "adventure".
This guy doesn't deserve you, and I wish you the best.
2007-12-02 22:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. The fact that he cheats on every girl he has been with is a big red flag.
2007-12-02 22:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will cheat on you, but you might like being his next conquest so go for it and have a good time.
2007-12-02 22:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋