LIke before you married . or before your 18
2007-12-02 13:56:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES!! It really means something if you wait, not just, ho hum, another roll in the hay. I don't say you have to wait for marriage, but you should be in a long-term committed relationship that has already proven important to both of you over a period of a couple of months, if not longer.
And waiting for marriage is okay, too, if you don't rush into marriage just to get sex.
As for age, it's more a matter of maturity of the two of you and of the relationship, but I'd think very few people are ready for sexual relations until they have finished high school. That's minimum; in your 20s is better. AND in a long-term proven relationship.
Even if you are using birth control, if a pregnancy would be devastating, then you probably are not ready for sex. If your relationship and you are strong enough to support having a baby, even if you don't really want one quite yet (or ever), then you and the relationship are probably mature enough for sex.
2007-12-04 07:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you thinking about engaging into very risky behavior. Making love is an adult behavior with very adult consequences. Do you want to give up your dreams to raise a child? Do you want to deal with contracting an STD (according to recent news reports, HIV is on the rise with young adults)? Can you handle being used for sex? Making love is more than the physical act. It is a bonding of two souls to produce a new soul. You should save making love until you are in a committed relationship. BTW: marriage is a committed relationship. God bless.
2007-12-02 22:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the individual. I would say probably not, but if it makes some people happy, good for them.
I think as long as you're not feeling pressured into having sex, and you're not having a lot of trouble abstaining and going against your desires to the point it interferes with your life, then whenever you are ready is fine.
2007-12-02 22:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite the opposite "Deez". The longer the wait, the better it is...especially if it's with someone who u really love...
Cheap sex= u get what it's worth....nothing cuz it's just cheap and like other cheap things, can easily fall apart and even make u sick...
Real sex is worth the wait. Think, ANTICIPATION!. you won't regret waiting, but u will, without a doubt, regret NOT waiting.....
2007-12-02 22:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depend on how you relationship is .. if you both are ready for sex well then give it a shot ... but make it something special because it is ... but if you just going to have a one night stand ... well its worth waiting for ... waiting for that someone special ... if youre not comfortable with the person well sex can be really ackward ..
2007-12-02 22:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by X4gOTTEnX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. I'm not at that age but in NZ the age is 16, And I think it is a good thing to wait till you find the right one. who cares about the age you are. I think it would be worth it though personly.
2007-12-02 22:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I haven't heard any logical reason to wait for sex before marriage yet, and I've never heard about anyone waiting until 18 either.
2007-12-02 22:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, It's better with someone u love-truely!
And with dieases, AID, and other stuff u just don't want to jumpin to bed!
My 1st was with a girlfriend of 2 years relationship! We enjoy each other and we both wanted to make love! We were 19 and 19!
2007-12-02 22:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by firefighter3240 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait till you find that special person that you fall in love with. it will be worth waiting.
2007-12-02 22:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do it when you are fully ready to do it then it is worth it. If you feel pressured, then you are not ready. You'll just know when you are ready because you won't feel pressure and it'll be because it's what YOU want to do.
2007-12-02 22:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by dollmaker_extraordinaire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋