My bf and I used 2 b very close. Like 1 unit. We are in high school and have not done it, we don't think we should. However, over the 1st 3 years of hs we grew so close. This year, our senior year, everything's changed and after 4 months of ups and downs but never breaking up, we had a conversation where he admitted often when we kiss he doesn't feel anything. He said he's no longer attracted to me all the time, and doesn't know why or how to fix it. He swears he is not a homosexual and I asked what I'm supposed to do tom at school after lunch when we usually kiss. He said he doesn't know and frankly I don't either. He doesn't want to break up he said, although I agreed he could have a break, but he doesn't want ot end 4 years over this. So what do I do, how do I help him or myself?
2007-12-02 13:41:44 · 12 answers · asked by glossycm 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That happens with anything you do... Sex for example will get boring when you do it all the time ... but what i think is theres alot more to a kiss then just feelings ... its a way to express to your loved one that you care for them and your "into" them ... it may not feel like anything to you (or him) everytime you do it but if you never did anything like that well ... you might as well just be friends ... but theres always ways to spice it up on both of your parts but whether he wants to do that or not ... well then thats when you should decide whether to get a new bf or not... relationships are difficult but its all how you handle things
2007-12-02 13:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by X4gOTTEnX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first kiss with my bf lasted 15 mins. The first 2mins I kept my open 'cause I was confused. Next 5mins I tried to position my hands properly whilst limiting tongue contact. Next 5mins I tried a technique I read online and drew circles on his tongue with mine. Last 3 mins I begun to enjoy it and fell in love with him. First kisses are usually awkward. You probably didn't kiss long enough to find your ground Or maybe it wasn't meant to be. But don't let a kiss be the judge of that look at other things he does (looking into your eyes, holding your hand.. Then maybe you feel something special there)
2016-04-07 04:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, after the first couple of years, romantic attraction doesn't come from super performance in kissing or making love. It comes from meeting each others emotional needs, and when you do that, the sparks will fly in the physicals.
Read a couple of good books on this like Harley's "His needs, her needs" or the old "Five love languages". Find out what makes him feel loved - it may not be what you're doing at the moment, because it probably isn't the same as what you want him to do to make you feel loved.
When he feels loved, you won't have any problem with kissing.
Good luck!
2007-12-02 13:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Graham 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to kiss all the time. Maybe you need to take a bit of a break, and that could refresh the attraction. You are both still young and there is a lot of change going on in your lives, anyway.
2007-12-02 13:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This best thing is to break up because he no longer finds you attractive. He probably likes someone else now. You have to let him go, solve the problem himself then maybe go back out.
2007-12-02 13:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u guy's have been together for four years! and u guy's do see eachother at school, so there's not that feeling of omg i can't wait to see you feeling! so my best advice is to plan a trip or somewhere for example ur anniversay....to spice it up if not give urselfs a break! something i don't believe, but it could also be good so i've heard good luck!
2007-12-02 13:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to break up with him, what a coward! He may say he doesn't want, but that's exactly what he wants so he can feel less guilty. Girl, you don't have to be with someone who has admitted that doesn't feel anything when he kisses you. How to help you both? Let him go
2007-12-02 13:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is not attracted to you, the relationship cannot work. He is tired of you, that's the truth. Move on and find someone who is, your too young for something so stupid. If he wants a break --- good ridence!
2007-12-02 13:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Scigirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it might be time to get a new bf.
2007-12-02 13:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion if he says he's no longer Attracted to u then really he doesnt feel for u and u should move to other people who are attracted to u
2007-12-02 13:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by ($$$] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋