2007-12-02 13:37:09 · 19 answers · asked by Evita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That depends on your situation. If you are young and haven't been together long then a promise ring should symbolize that how he feels right now he could picture marrying you in the future. But if you are older and have been together a long time then I would say an engagement is needed. Even if you aren't ready to get married yet it could just mean you will get married when you are both ready. whether it be a year later or five. Many people have long engagements.
2007-12-06 03:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope unless he can put a time frame on this then he thinks you guys can screw around forever and he nevers has to tie the knot. I think a promise depending on how old you are is fine your in high school and you promise to go steady. But in a real relationship you should have two rings an engagement ring and a wedding band. Come on what is he 12 if your in your twenties and been dating for say a couple of years then that should be a engagement ring not a silly promise ring.
It appears he wants the candy but not the commitment not anytime soon that is. Maybe ask him when he thinks he will marry you someday is just to broad.
God Bless and Best Wishes
2007-12-02 19:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me personally there is no way the promise to marry me someday is good enough. I'd want an actual engagement ring with a promise to marry me in a year (or whenever time frame) but someday could be infinite. Do you want to wait for someone who will marry you someday if that someday is 30 years from now. Wont you have found out that waiting was not worth it.
2007-12-02 13:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a promise ring is just a promise, easily broken. Its not an engagement ring, which is what smart guys give. A promise ring is to make a girl feel special and to keep her from wandering to another guy. I personally think they are a load of crap. If his serious he will put a ring on your all important finger.
There are some reasons why people get promise rings, lack of funds or your in college and cant quite give her want she wants...
its a promise to marry you 'someday', do you really want to wait for someday?
2007-12-02 14:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Bf gave me a promise ring last christmas because he could not afford an engagment ring to his liking. He just told me today that he was going to propose 2 months ago but we had an emergency with my car and needed to get 4 new tires. I know he wants to marry me and I told him the promise ring is enough but he insists I need another diamond. We live together and plan on having children. He told me that I will have my engagement ring before December 30, 2008. Thats good enough for me. If you believe he loves you and you love him then its enough for now. If you need reassurance just talk to him and tell him what you want.
2007-12-02 15:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by AMP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A promise ring is a way to "get you to shut up" for now. A Promise ring "is nothing". If he was committed to you, he would get you the REAL deal. Meaning a real engagement ring. Any guy can throw around a "promise ring". Promise rings or soo Highschoolish. I got a promise ring from my husband when we first started dating. But he buckled down and got me the real thing.
2007-12-02 16:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...how old are you? If you're between 15-22, then sure, a promise ring is good. However, if you or your boyfriend is older than 22...i think it's time to be adults. After 22 years old....a promise ring is an engagement ring.
2007-12-02 14:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by carrot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that counts as engagement.
My boyfriend got me a promise ring about 6 months into our relationship that was a promise to me that he was taking our relationship seriously and that he was seeking to one day replace the promise ring with an engagement ring....but that initial promise ring was simply a way for me to know what was in his heart, and to be assured that he was as devoted to our relationship as I.
It was a very special moment when he proposed and he replaced the promise ring with my engagement ring. I think promise rings are a sweet, old-fashioned way of doing things.
2007-12-03 02:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. sorry. I have a friend who did the same thing and gave 5 girls rings with the promise of marriage. He ended up marrying someone else.
2007-12-02 13:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not enough. he may just be saying that. a promise is not enough, because people can break promises. you need a ring to make sure you will marry someone
2007-12-02 13:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by fran bran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋