Okay so my mom is totally not a christian! She admitted to watching porn, and having sex with my dad b4 marriage. Well today i told her i really didnt have a relgion, like o believe in God and Jesus but i really dont want to say i'm a christian or w/e or go to church. i mean i aint ashamed i believe in Jesus or God but i want to see the other relgions out there b4 i set at one relgion my whole life. But anyways she preached at me and wouldnt even let me talk to tell her my reasoning! So i decided to do my preaching tonite telling her how sex b4 marriage is a sin and porn is a sin! well she told me to shut up b4 i was grounded from the fone! HOW IS THIS FAIR??? how can i live in this house 2 more years w/ them pushing a relgion on me w/o me having a say in it! Why cant i choose my own religion and y cant i preach at my mom! i mean i was a christian 4 15 yrs! i did listen church!!!! i went to church camp for 8 yrs! I DID LISTEN!! i aint stupid i know what sinning is and isnt!
2007-12-02 11:41:06 · 9 answers · asked by jennie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When you're of age and can live on your own then you can make up your own mind. Until then, your parents have all the control and the right to tell you what to do. We are all sinners and to be so angry at your mom is not what you learned at church camp. You know your mom loves you and wants what is right and the best for you. Cut her some slack and just enjoy being a kid. You will be grown up before you know it, so enjoy what you have. Peace
2007-12-02 11:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by PARVFAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were 7 answers before I decided to answer myself.
I do not belong to an organized religion, I was born a Catholic, went to the United for a while, married into the Mormon religion (which I thoroughly endorse for someone else) but after that I decided to investigate, question and look for myself. I have read everybook on every religion, talked to various people and asked them about their religion, and in the end result, decided that I would not belong to any religion BUT I would respect all other religions.
I found that the basis of most religions are about love and living a good life (it is people who have changed the intrepretation of most and become fundamental).
That said, this is what I think of the situation you find yourself in. What your parents did in the past, should really have nothing to do with any of your decisions, now. You will look back on your past and recognize that you made many mistakes, but hopefully, just like this question, you will have learned by them.
Part of everyone's basic religion is not to judge, not to be angry and to be understanding and accepting of whatever religion other people (in this case your parents) pick.
You have a good heart, and I feel you are going in the right direction, however, on the way to reaching a decision as to what and how you want to live, you have to be the best person you can be.
You can live in that house 2 more years, because you are 15 and you still have a lot to understand. You cannot be mad and angry at your parents and expect to live a good life later on in life. What you "sow" now you are going to "reap" later.
Have you heard the saying "What goes around comes around".
I suggest you keep your emotions in tow, and you apologize to your mother. If you believe in Jesus and God, then you have to live by what Jesus taught. You do not have to join their Church when you are older, but it will be very interesting for you to learn more about your parents religion and at the same time act like Jesus would have wanted you to act.
No you are not stupid, because you ARE thinking for yourself and coming to your own conclusions. But, please, be the best person you can ;be whilst living with your parents, and be the best daughter you can be. THEN you will be led to whatever way you are supposed to live. If you keep being mad and accusing your parents of the past, it will do you more harm than good, and you will not be able to sort out later, which way you want to live, because you have been in a negative thinking mode, whilst you were making up your mind.
Be the person I know you can be. Choose to be loving, kind and non-judgemental and all those actions will return to you in a most wonderful way.
Peace and love,
2007-12-03 03:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly like you when i was your age. Church was boring It was a chore... i had to go every frikin sunday for confirmation and i didnt have a choice ... so so borrrring... I thought the preacher was a waste of my time and i didnt like him because I thought he thought he was better than me! and i didnt want to listen to him but i had no choice so I wanted to rebel ... i made it through confirmation by a thread lol....
But i didnt care then... I prayed but heard no answer from God everr
Butt when i was 19 God Answered a prayer of mine, which i prayed to through Jesus as taught (even though half heartedly He heard my prayer:)... cryin for help and WELLLL I found myself at my pastor's door step crying ... telling him that i was sorry so sorry for not going back to church..... And that I fully believe with out a doubt , that I had seen God's work in my life....
So Jesus had mercy on me and saved my life and ever since my life has changed... I go to church for fun and I love to learn more and more... its n longer a chore however
If you made it this far.... I want u to know the reason im writing so much is that You remind me so so so much of myself at that age... a know it all lol sorry
But , calling your parent sinner is hypocritical...Jesus was the only walking Human who was with out sin
NOt nobody is righeous, and will fallshort of the glory of God...
we have 2 sides, a born side of sinfull nature.........ever since the begining of sin...... so porn and premarital sex is a sin... but its a mistake that can be forgiven just like when you tell a lie to your teacher or friend... they are alllll the same ... sin is sin.... And because your parents sinned doesnt mean you are any better.... remember if you really want to prove to them your religious independance you gotta really show knowledge an wisdom not the immature attitude of "u sinned etc and thats not fair" see that will get u nowhere.... trust me .......... read some proverbs seek that wisdom and knowledge like there was no tomorow.... If i could go back to your age I would have loved LOVED to know what i do now and I would already be graduated from college probably in the hamptons.....
but God has a reason for everything.........I would love to see you show your parents how smart you are by using wisdom not blaming... they will be very impressed... remember there is divine wisdom which comes from God ad then there is "experience" wisdom from your life events
u should not say ive been a christian for 15 years ... its not like a job... Its a way of life that brings the most joy based on love ...Jesus is Lord... and it will save you time looking for a new religion if You take the short cut STRAIGHT to Jesus!! you can do it... sorry so long i really care and hope that u read proverbs and show your parents what u have learned
2007-12-02 12:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Livefor2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both a bit confused. Christianity isn't about being sinless. It's about trusting God through Jesus Christ.
As far as you having your own religion, it didn't go too well, did it? I mean, why bring it up? She doesn't listen to you. You apparently are having problems with each other that go back perhaps since your birth. You Mom told you that she had premarital sex? That's her fault if she did. That was a bad thing for her to do, but it doesn't mean that she isn't Christian.
You are in danger spiritually, she isn't.
2007-12-02 11:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the place to start up. As all of us understand, eye-witness comments are the main unreliable data you may have. There are actually not any first-hand money owed of Jesus doing something in the bible (that's all 2d and nil.33 hand), so the reliability of the bible is extremely suspect. This, and the reality that there is no different corroborating data (there is no self sustaining verification that Jesus rose from the lifeless), capacity we can not settle for that Jesus became into "taken up in the clouds". i'm very specific no one has ever seen Jesus sitting on the throne next to god the daddy (what, are you 5 years previous?), so we are able to reject that too. Elijah? Reread the above and replace "jesus" with "elijah". I hesitate to call you stupid, yet whilst the shoe suits....
2016-10-10 02:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect your parents and everything they have done for you. If you cant handle 2 years of having to listen to their religion after they have handled you for I am guessing what 16 years of your life and your needs and wants, then you really have some growing up to do.
Maybe you should find a religion that teaches more respect and gratitude twds your parents.
2007-12-02 11:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by cadisneygirl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make her life a living hell until she gives in...Always worked for me until I moved out of my house. Parents these days do not truly know how to handle their kids and more or less like to avoid problems. Cause enough of them and she'll be more inclined to listen to why you are acting up and give in to what you want.
2007-12-02 11:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jakero Evigh 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
my parents don't care what i believe anymore because i fight it so much. you're what 15? why not rebel? don't listen to them. if they say don't go out just go out. i did it and my parents don't punish me. my older sister says "how come he can do this i was never allowed to" and i reply "i don't ask them if can do this i just go out and do it." do what you want not as you're told.
2007-12-02 11:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. R PhD in Revolution 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie, one thing be more clear. the way you are writing i had to read it 3 times. i still dont get it, is she Christian or not? be more clear...
2007-12-03 03:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋