2007-12-02 11:35:44 · 22 answers · asked by Hi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
why/why not?
2007-12-02 11:35:56 · update #1
"Only on paper", as they say. His wife can't even demand a divorce settlement on grounds of adultery if they are separated. The marriage was over 2 years ago.
2007-12-02 11:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Citizen Justin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Adultery by definition is having sexual intercourse with someone who is legally married to someone else.
It's not adultery to date someone who is still married, but it could be considered a lapse in moral integrity.
Why is he dating others if he still thinks his marriage is salvageable?
If their marriage is not salvageable, the only honest thing to do is to get a divorce. Why is he hanging on? Is it because he doesn't want to have to give her a lot of money, or because he hopes to get back together with her...?
Either way, it shows he has not really made his mind up about his morality, nor about what he really wants.
To date him is to live with uncertainty... and what are the chances that he will wish to have sex with you (usually high)? To have sexual intercourse with him is to commit adultery.
Romantic relationships usually lead to sex... religious people usually get married before they perform that act of bonding. If he is already married, you can't marry him. Therefore, the natural conclusion to dating a separated man is committing adultery with him.
Dating married men is walking a very fine and dangerous line... in my experience, those who do it, usually lose their balance and fall ...
2007-12-02 11:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To heck with those that say you need to sleep with him to commit adultery...I say that "dating" alone is sufficient for a charge of adultery. Having said that, the adultery would be his not yours...he's the one that is married...if you aren't, you're guilty of fornication AND you're guilty of whatever it is called when you encourage others to sin and whatever it is called when you don't respect the property of others (vandalism?, stealing? whatever).
The bible makes it clear that a husband belongs to his wife. Furthermore, Jesus made it clear that you don't have to "do the deed" to be guilty of the crime...that wishing someone dead is the same as killing them and that looking at a person with lust in your heart was the same as adultery (or fornication). If you are romantically involved with a man who is married to someone else, then yes, it is adultery/fornication...and a lot more than that.
2007-12-02 11:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by KAL 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't worry about the adultery part. If a woman is not completely divorced, I will not date her. Separated means she is still married and I could get dragged into the divorce proceedings.
2007-12-02 11:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You're either dating a married man, which is adultery (if you sleep with him), or you're dating a single man (which is just garden variety fornication).
I don't recall a verse that said "Thou shalt not get jiggy wid a married man unless he hath been separated two years or more."
2007-12-02 11:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in the eyes of God he's married.
Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery
2007-12-02 11:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by ' 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes
It is also not smart because you are complicating an already sticky situation. You are putting yourself into someone else's family situation (having heard only one side of the story). There is also the problem of men who date (you) when they are still married being men who date when they are still married (to you).
2007-12-02 11:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Truth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you WANT to date him?
What's going on with this seperation that's taking them two years to decide what to do?
This guy sounds like a "wants his cake and eat it, too" sort. He's still TECHNICALLY married, but he's out and dating.
2007-12-02 11:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by ~Smirk~ Resurrected 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mr. Disgustin' Justin on this one. But my opinion is of little importance. What is important is: (1) that your actions are consistant with your own moral and religious beliefs. And (2) that you act in kindness toward yourself and others.
2007-12-02 11:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by yutsnark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it's not the most smart thing to do. You could get dragged into the divorce mess. Heck, in some states YOU could be sued for a thing called alienation of affection (look it up).
2007-12-02 11:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by AngFlowr 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋