Im 20 yrs old. I grew up in church in a christian home and for that reason I am still a virgin. I do belive to wait until marriage to have sex. but I have fantasies about men being bossy and rough with me. it turns me on to think of a man telling me what to do. (only during sex and foreplay) My question is.... is it wierd for me to have this sort of fantasy? It has nothing to do with abuse but just. playfully rough...... if that makes sense.. I dont know.
2007-12-02 11:27:43 · 19 answers · asked by bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for all the congrats ladies... Trust me. it has been hard. VERY hard. But I know I will be greatful for waiting. sharing that with someone who I can make love to. not just have sex with.
2007-12-02 12:22:32 · update #1
It's not weird. In terms of fantasies, people tend to fantasize about elements that are absent from their usual experiences, not what they already have. So if you're fantasizing about rough, bossy treatment, it's probably because you're pretty well-treated and respected in most of your day-to-day experiences. That's a good thing. So, enjoy your fantasies...they make perfect sense.
2007-12-02 11:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol no its not wierd. ur fricken 20 for goodness sakes, ur gonna eventually develope your own fantasies and likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. Alot of girls like it rough, though we hate to admit it, sometimes it feels good to know our man knows how to be a man. So long as hes only being rough in bed and not in the relationship. this must seem pretty awkward coming from somone younger than you. but the fact that you are 20 and still a virgin? is a great acheivment!!! congrats girl! :)
2007-12-02 11:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by **B-ritt** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It makes sense to have fantasies but you have to remember that it is only a fantasy. Please save whatever desires you have to be acted out with whom ever you marry and not to let your guard down and act on your sexual fantasy. Try masturbation it may take some of the edge off; You can pretend all you want then and let your inhibitions run wild. Good Luck!
2007-12-02 11:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for something like that you would have to get the right guy. you wouldnt want one who would take advantage of that and turn it into bossing you around. I think thats not an abnormal fantasy though.
2007-12-02 11:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your horny...plain and simple. I mean...your normal. It doesnt matter if your christian or not. You human. As long as you stay true to your beliefs tho...in waiting until marriage than your not doing anything wrong. every person fantasizes. So dont feel ashamed or bad or like your going to hell for it. LOL. its life. your gonna think about things like that.
2007-12-02 11:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common fantasy, and probably you have someone in real life (maybe father, brother) who is a bossy man....
2007-12-02 11:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really, a lot of women like that feeling of a powerful man having sex with them... just so the man is ok with it.
2007-12-02 11:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fun healthy sexual relationship, as long as it stays in the bedroom.
2007-12-02 11:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats perfectly normal. They are your fantasies... arnt they? Many girls like that kind of foreplay.
2007-12-02 11:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by tadbit.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal -- I like thinking about my fiancee being "rough" with me. It's hot. There's nothing wrong with you.
2007-12-02 11:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋