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i have been a closet muslim for a year now (i converted after studying the Quran and Islamic theology...i'm a theology major), so far it's been easy for me to avoid pork, alchohol and to dress modestly. i conduct my daily prayers in the privacy of my room, and i still go to church with my family, so they have never suspected anything.

a few months ago i met a muslim convert like myself at a muslim students association. his family is jewish and his father has accepted his conversion. we've been getting to know each other and our relationship is developing into something really special.

i've been doing well as a closet muslim but i don't think i can stay in the closet any longer, especially if we choose to get married soon...how do i tell my parents? i've been going to church with them because i care about their feelings, but my heart has been firmly set into islam for the past one year?
any converts of any faith, how did u manage to convince your family? btw i'm 23.

2007-12-02 11:20:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

i'm in the closet, because i fear people like u, 'passionate for jesus'

2007-12-02 11:26:43 · update #1

my dear christians, please respect my rights to the freedom of religion as an american, i know who i am and what i believe in so please let me be.

2007-12-02 11:30:41 · update #2

no1home, i'm a theology major, i've studied everything on the bible, the koran and the torah. i choose islam as my faith, and i know that i am loved by God, inshaallah. i am responsible for my own sins and no one can save me other than Allah/God Himself.

thanks to the rest of u for your kind advice.

2007-12-02 11:42:11 · update #3

23 answers

Don't try to convince your family. Simply be honest with them about your new faith and ask for their understanding. Be prepared to receive any adverse reactions on their part though.

But it's much better all around for everyone. They should know soon rather than much later --if only to prevent any embarrassing or awkward situations in front of others-- especially now that you're into a more serious relationship already.

And it's also better for you so you don't have to be hypocritical by continuing to go to church with them... unless you really want to do it and it's not against your new religion.

Hope that helps. And all the best to you and yours.

Peace be with you.

2007-12-02 11:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Arf Bee 6 · 0 0

My question is are you ready to follow what the Quran says about association with you Christians and Jews? Are you ready to give up your family for the faith? The Quran states, in

Chapter 5: Verse 51-O you who have believed, do not take the Jews and the Christians as allies. They are [in fact] allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you – then indeed, he is [one] of them. Indeed, Allah guides not the wrongdoing people.

Will you be able to associate with your family anyway? If not, then don't worry about it and tell them. If you are truely and Muslim now you will follow the Quran to cut yourself off. Allah and Muhammed demands it.

I don't think Jesus ever taught that. He taught tolerance and love. I don't see that in the Quran. Have you read it really? You are making a life changing decision.

5 :57 O you who have believed, take not those who have taken your religion in ridicule and amusement among the ones who were given the Scripture before you nor the disbelievers as allies. And fear Allah, if you should [truly] be believers.

5:72 They have certainly disbelieved who say, "Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary" while the Messiah has said, "O Children of Israel, worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord." Indeed, he who associates others with Allah – Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers.

That is your answer. Blessings to your special friend too.

2007-12-03 05:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Telling your parents that you have converted to a faith different from theirs is always very difficult, especially when you have converted to a religion that has so much hatred and ignorance surrounding it. The only way is to just sit them down and tell them. Perhaps it would be easier for you if your young man were to come with you when you tell them. Remember that they may very well not agree with your choice and it may take them awhile to get adjusted to the idea, but they are your parents and they love you. If Islam truly makes you happy then they will see that and hopefully respect your choice. I think continuing to lie to them would be more hurtful in the long run than telling them the truth. Good luck to you.

2007-12-02 11:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by ghostwolf 4 · 2 0

I don't think you can convince your family to believe anything...your friend's father accepted his conversion not because his son convinced him of anything but because he was willing to accept it. I follow the same basic religion as my father, but I've never been able to "convince" him about anything I believe that isn't consistent with his beliefs.

It isn't about convincing them, it is about being honest with them and giving them the chance to respond however they feel like responding! If your family can't accept your conversion for whatever reason, there is nothing you can do to change their mind. However, hiding the truth from them can only have a negative influence on their reaction...no one likes feeling like someone didn't trust them enough to tell them the truth. It is even possible that they will be more upset that you didn't talk to them about your decision than they are about the decision itself...???...and the longer you wait, the worse this reaction will become.

Tell them now and let the chips fall where they may...you are NOT responsible for their reaction, your only responsibility is to be open, honest and truthful with them.

2007-12-02 11:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by KAL 7 · 0 0

Tell them. I think that bc you have converted to islam and you took the right path. Allah (swt) will be by your side when you tell them. They are your parents they cant hate you, your 23 and your on your own your an individual according to american culture. If you have the guts to tell them, Allah (swt) will have your back. dont worry about it, be proud that you are muslim, even in front of your parents..

2007-12-04 03:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ray 1 · 0 0

Just tell them. Answer any questions they may have and hopefully they won't take it the wrong way. Good luck.
I guess you should make sure they know that Muslims believe in Jesus too, just not like Christians do, that may help. A lot of people don't know that.
بالتوفيق!

2007-12-02 11:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 2 0

I give you much respect as I am not christian or muslim. I say congratulations. Just tell them. The sooner the better. You are an adult. You have to live for yourself now and not your parents. You are not doing anything wrong or being disrespectful. You say you care about their feelings but what about yours? They don't care about yours????

2007-12-02 11:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0 0

I'm planning on waiting till after Christmas myself to tell my Christian parents I'm an anthiest and left their church. You need to do what's in your heart. If they truly love you they will understand your need to follow your heart. If they don't, quote Jesus and say "Love One Another!!" then pack your bags and head for the hills girlfriend! You'll be fine... and I'll be thinking of you come January. :)

2007-12-02 11:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

See this book.
The author is moslem.
Maybe you find your questions in perennial school.
http://www.worldwisdom.com/Public/Books/ItemDetail.asp?ProductID=116
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Fullness of God, The: Frithjof Schuon on Christianity

Author(s): Frithjof Schuon
Edited by James Cutsinger
Foreword by Antoine Faivre

Subject(s): Christianity
Metaphysics

ISBN: 0-941532-58-5

2007-12-03 06:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mojtaba Matin 1 · 0 0

Tell them that you're gay, and atheist, and your getting married to a 57 year old woman. When they wake back up, it'll be a lot easier to accept that you've just changed religions.

2007-12-02 11:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

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