I met the BF two months ago, we fell in love and even talk of marriage. Now am moved three states away and have slept with my ex huusband a few times when he came to be with the kids. should i tell my BF? I don't want to hurt him... I know i should of thought of that before i slept with the ex. but please help
2007-12-02 11:02:39 · 36 answers · asked by old me... past sucks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend deserves to know what kind of a slut you are, don't you think?
2007-12-02 11:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Warren W- a Mormon engineer 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I just don't believe you. I hope your fiance doesn't either. Because #1 you should have no communication with your ex. How do you expect anyone to believe you when the first thing you said was every time I talked to him on the phone. Why were you still talking to him? Oh and come on about the raping in the car I mean seriously. No one hand delivers their wedding invitation to an ex boyfriend who wont take no for an answer when it comes to them being together. I have never been raped, but who gets raped in a car? I mean it is not impossible, but that set up will prove to have more of a struggle when it comes to someone doing something against their will. I think you were horny, I think you screwed your ex, but you just found out you are pregnant so you want to call it rape so you won't lose your fiance. Good luck on this one.
2016-05-27 07:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by madeleine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to figure out WHO you want. The ex-hubby sex thing is a no-no in my book.
Secondly, you and your b/f have only met 2 months ago.... that's not a long time. BUT how do you really feel about him?
If you want to be with your b/f, you have to STOP sleeping with the ex. That is just wrong and unfair to the b/f who apparently cares for you a great deal if you are talking marriage.
If ex wants to visit the kids, have someone there with you so you won't feel 'tempted' anymore.
Your ex is a DOG if he knows about your b/f and STILL wants to sleep with you. If you don't watch it, your b/f WILL find out about that.
Should you tell b/f??? If it DOES NOT happen again, I think I'd keep that to myself as not to hurt b/f. Tell ex to find another 'convenient piece' and to leave you alone.
2007-12-02 11:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by †..Jetta..† 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do tell the boyfriend about sleeping with your ex....he is going to break it off with you. The feelings in that relationship are very intense. With your ex......you have to remember why it was that you got divorced for in the first place. Once is a mistake and if the feelings are true,probably will be forgiven but, more than once-you know better but are going ahead anyway. Sounds like to me that you still have feelings for your ex. Personally it sounds like you weren't ready to move on to another relationship. Ultimately, you have to decide on what you want, go back to the ex, or have a relationship with your boyfriend.
2007-12-02 11:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Not w/stupid anymore. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u and ur BF have talked about marriage. then ur relationship is serious so YES u should tell him. Even-though he might get mad, Would u want to lie to him about it? Hopefully he would give over it but it would probaly take some time. And y r u sleeping with ur ex if u have a BF who u LOVE!!!!
2007-12-02 11:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants a serious relationship, but you aren't ready for one because you are not over your former husband. I don't know if you are having sex with your bf, but if you were, you are now unfaithful to him. He deserves better and you should have more self-respect. Tell the boyfriend that it's over and tell him you are so sorry you led him on but you still have feelings for your former husband that you can't get over. By the way, I have a feeling that you and your former husband won't keep on having sex. What's that all about any way--ask yourself why and where is this going.
2007-12-02 11:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no, don't tell him. While it hurts you to not be completely over your ex husband,,and to have cheated on your bf, it will hurt him MORE. What is the point? Try not to do it again, cleanse your thought of it and move on. Maybe that needed to happen in order to move forward with your BF,,,but if you tell him it will be over. I don't think you should, really.
2007-12-02 11:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by neveragain 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you have been with this guy for 2 months and are talking about marriage? If you plan to be with him forever, I think he has the right to know about the sex with the ex. Wouldn't you like to know if you were in his place?
2007-12-02 11:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by SunLover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yer he really does need to know, imange he done that to u and didnt tell you, if u like him a lot/ love him u should say something,before he finds out otherwise and he will be more hurt, u done what u did now your have to take the conciquencies, its only fair , you cant be selfish about things and make it seem like everythinks ok, u wont be able to do that, keeping a smile, being happy knowing u have a dark secret u need to tell him, u never know he might forgive u , for being truthful.
2007-12-02 13:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately have to, if you still want your relationship with your boyfriend to last. If you don't, you'll live with guilt everytime you are with your boyfriend/ future husband, and even with your kids. Tell him, and see if he understands, convince him that you won't sleep with anyone else other than him, and follow through! A healthy relationship depends on trust! Good Luck! <3
2007-12-02 11:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by cavals07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been going out for a few months so if you do tell him, he is more likely to leave, i know and you know that the right thing to do is to tell him. It is your call, is your ex going to tell him?
2007-12-02 11:06:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋