I went camping a while back and snogged this boy and he fingered me he wanted to have sex but i said no bcos i didnt really know him, but now i see him in school and i regret every minute of that night also i walked past him and he said outloud to his friends that im a **** shag, but i didnt even shag him, its really making me upset and fustrated, also i fell out with my friend and she told him i told everyone that he raped me and i havent said that,
what do i do?
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2007-12-02 10:53:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start the rumor that he has a tiny pee pee.
2007-12-02 11:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by tidbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We learn from our mistakes. Unfortunately you can't undo what happened that night. You can't control what he says about you. The people that know you will support you. Those are your real friends.
Time will make this go away. Your behavior will let people know that what he is saying isn't true.
The next time a situation like this comes up, you won't make the same mistake.
There are people that can be very cruel. Whatever this guy's motive is for saying those things was to make him look good.
Remember "what goes around, comes around." In other words this guy will pay for his behavior at some point.
You don't have to justify what you did to anyone. We all make mistakes. The important thing to remember is that you learn from this. Try not to personalize this too much.
In regards to the rape accusation, he will realize that you didn't say anything when the police do not contact him.
2007-12-02 11:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. When it's visible it bothers you then the more they're encouraged to do that sort of thing. If they think it doens't bother you anymore, they'll get bored and just pick something else to talk about. People grow up and move on.
However, if you want a quick solution, you'd have to get the truth out to everyone who'd need to know. Though, watch out - that could just cause more conflict. Like announcing on the PA or putting notes on the board.
Whatever you're going to do, tell your friend to tell everyone that what she said wasn't true, and if the intention was to help you, you'd rather she stop because it's making you look bad.
The best thing to do is walk it off. You could just make things worse by doing anything else.
2007-12-02 11:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really know him but you snogged with him & let him finger you? Dang, you're easy! This is why kids need to think twice about any form of sex or fornication. Don't say anything else and the rumors should die down. Or, pull him aside and tell him if he doesn't stop the lies, you'll go to the head dean. You shouldn't be more embarrassed to tell an adult, because they've already heard it anyway.
2007-12-02 11:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by dtown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One he's pissed because you didn't sleep with him and every one knew you were going out on a date..so he's getting back at you by making you look like a sleaze...she wasn't much of a friend so just blow her off...school! you go to school for twelve yrs and I know what all those kids think now matter to you.. but your never gonna see those ppl again when you graduate..F*ck them that's the attitude you have to have ..I know it's not an easy thing to do but....such as life..don't let them control your life ..you take control and make new friends..in two days somebody elsa will be on the chopping block and you will all be but forgotten the next poor soul will come around for them to make fun of them.
2007-12-02 11:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a higher caliber of friendships and better judgment. The judgment probably just took care of itself, so now it's time to loose these friends and find some new ones with higher ethical standards.
2007-12-02 10:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you for saying no to him. Don't regret it, what happened happened. He sounds like an asshole to me. Tell your friend to quit those rumors because its a lie and it could get him into a bunch of trouble. Talk to him about it. He's just trying to be cool in front of his guy friends.
2007-12-02 10:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why'd you let him finger you in the first place? You got yourself into this mess, so you've got to get yourself out. Good luck!
2007-12-02 10:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to get fingerbanged by dudes while camping?
2007-12-02 10:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oo wow bad situashen
well if you didn't do "anything" and you said no tell someone like mom, dad, or teacher
2007-12-02 10:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Spaz Attack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋