So i asked this guy to my semi formal. We're not girlfriend/boyfriend but we hang out everyday and have hooked up multiple times (everything but sex). He's made it very clear that edventually he'd like to date me but has never talked about actually taking that step. Anyway, He said he would go with me. But then we ended up getting in a huge argument. While we were fighting i asked him if i needed to take someone else to my semi formal. he said he "didn't know." i took that as a yes and asked someone else. Then we ended up forgiving each other. I let him know that i still couldn't take him to semi formal because the other guy already said yes. Well the other guy ended up backing out so I asked the guy i like again and he said he couldn't. he's made plans to go to VA Tech.
Everyone was saying I have a right to be mad at him but then again he's not my boyfriend so I don't feel llike i can be mad at him. What do you think?
2007-12-02 10:24:09 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the situation is as clear cut as it sounds, of course there is no reason to bear him ill will. It sounds as if both of you have handled the situation in a very mature manner. The immaturity comes from those with an incessant need for drama for which they are willing to encourage you to be hostile. Stick to your guns and be pleased with your ability to interact this way, it's rare even in people older than you.
God Bless.
2007-12-02 10:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Pee Amigo No 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I would have done the same as you.
People get in arguments & do things they later regret.
I had something similar happen to me & ended up going to my Senior prom with a group of girl friends... we had a blast (no guy needed)!
In your case, if the semi formal is something that's really important to you, then you should still go with or without him.
I'm sure all of your friends will be there to make you feel better about the situation.
If you don't feel comfortable about going alone, then ask around to see if anyone else is dateless. Chances are, there might be a few of your friends in the same boat. You all could go together as a group.
Just don't be too upset about him making other plans. Let him have his fun & you have yours. I'm sure you two will be just fine when all of this is over.
To answer your question directly... no, you shouldn't be mad at him.
2007-12-02 10:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I absolutely don't think that you have any right to be mad. Your original obligation was to him, even if you had a fight. Unless you said that you were not taking him or he said go ahead and ask someone---then your commitment was to him. I think he has every right to be mad at you. If your relationship can't stand a disagreement without you changing all plans, then I don't blame him. I would of made other plans too. Chances are that you are not "girlfriend material" and you will be nothing more then a hook-up in his future.
2007-12-02 10:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really your choice. I personally think that you shouldn't be mad. You went with someone else who backed out, but in that time span your former semi formal moved on. It's hard to explain, but he's making plans for his future, and I'm guessing he's expecting you to respect his decision. Like you said, he wasn't your boyfriend, so why should you be mad?
2007-12-02 10:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by tenoriomichael_87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it was a bad move on your part asking him if you needed to take somebody else to the semi formals because that's like saying you don't want anything to do with him anymore and he didn't have the heart to say "no, I still want to go with you" because you put too much pressure on him by giving him that ultimatum.
2007-12-02 10:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no right to be mad at him. You were the one who took a "don't know" for a "yes" and found another date.
After the semi formal is over, go to him and apologize for the misunderstanding and maybe you should hook up for real.
2007-12-02 10:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. No you really can't be ma. Because when you guys had that argument you asked someone else. It so happened the you forgave each other but told him you couldn't go with him. Seems to me he was fine with it. Why get mad and your the one who told him you couldn't go? Right? why not go with him to his plans or just go with a friend? Plus your right you guys aren't a couple YET (Hopefully it will happen) But until then I say no. But that's just my opinion.
2007-12-02 10:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well sort of, maybe not. You really had asked someone out and he probably made other plans after you had that argument because he was mad. Then you ask him again, and he can't . No, but he prob feels really bad, after you made up.
2007-12-02 10:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have no right to be mad at him! Are you kidding? Did you expect him to keep the night open for you just in case your other date fell through? He has a life of his own, he made other plans...would you have waited around if he had been asked by someone else to go...just in case she decided she couldn't take him? No, you would have asked another person.
2007-12-02 10:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by paganmom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your single and not committed to go out with him so why are you angry. If you have someone else to go with that is good if he has another person to go out with that is alright, but if your both single and want to go to the semi formal then go, but do not miss that opportunity going to your semi formal because of one incident.
2007-12-02 10:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by vanallenbelt1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋