Are you aware of your own level when with another person?

Question

i mean...when you're seeing a girl or guy...do you see that some of them are below your own level and some are higher than yours? ... have you ever dated someone who is exactly on your own level? cus i don't think i have...
it's either they're higher (and i feel insecure...but would wish for a more meaningful relationship) or lower (that i'd wish i never have to go out with them again or just remain friends with them)

Answer 1

Oohh, I see exactly what your saying in a lot of the people I've dated (the level system). When I was a lot younger, and at a lower level, I dated a few girls who were higher, and it made me uncomfortable, and I think that ended up ruining the relationship, although if I were to date the same girls now, I think they would be below me, since I have such high confidence now. What I like to do now is find someone who's a lower level, but has potential, then coach them to a higher level. There's a few girls I know on the same level as me at the moment, (because of my excellent coaching and confidence building, no doubt) but we've become too good of friends to have a relationship, or at least that's how it seems at the moment. (hmn, seems like a question I'm going to ask) So I don't end up being in, or continuing a relationship with them. Of course our friendship continues, usually in an unusual way involving a lot of flirting and string-free sex, but in the long run I think I'd really enjoy a fulfilling relationship, with someone on my own level, if that can be found.

Answer 2

I think 'levelling' is a social restraint we put on ourselves according to various factors from education to self esteem. When you think about the logic of 'levelling' it is similar, but perhaps more subtle, to a class system. For example, " I really look up to him so he must be better than me" Why do you look up to him? because he is; better looking, better level of education, better job, etc. It could just be a case of whether you are a glass is half full or empty kind of person!
However I often do feel on a different level from people I meet and sometimes the better I get to know a person the more that level can change. Sometimes you can get an instant connection with someone, which really helps with making a 'level' less apparent.
The short answer to the question is: Yes I can be aware of my own level with another person, but I have learned to ensure that doesn't hold me back or otherwise make feel 'less of a person.'

Answer 3

I don't believe any girl is higher or lower than me. I believe them to be on the same level as me as I long as I am interested in her.

Answer 4

As an American, I'm not even sure what you're talking about. Do you mean economic level? Intellectual level? If it's intellectual, I would probably know this before I dated the person. If it's economical, it doesn't matter if the person has future prospects.

Answer 5

everyone is at my level since i'm way to humble to see anyone below or above my level

Answer 6

yes i have and he was on a higher level . and he didnt mind showing it . i was very uncomfortable ..

Answer 7

that will always be true until you find the right one. but you better have alot of pateince. i would also ditch the whole above or below thing

Answer 8

i don't really feel that i'm above people. i just date
whoever i'm compfortable with. (or compatible with).
you really need to get to know people first before you judge.

Answer 9

there are NO levels --- no one is "better"or "worse" than you just different ---- im sorry that stereotyping leads to discrimination --- best wishes

Answer 10

this girl that i have always like i have always felt that she is way too good for me which is why i havent pursued her for like 5 years and counting