how would you handle this? and what religion are you?

Question

my roommate has kids ranging from 4 to 13, i have one who is 2 1/2 and she is with me 2 weeks at a time. i buy our own food and toiletries, and keep them separate. i went shopping today and as i was putting my groceries away i found all of the snacks and crackers my daughter likes are gone. just empty packages put back on the shelf. i asked the kids about it and they totally denied it, but i don't think it's my roommate. i am livid about this, i feel it's disrespectful. how would you handle this? or do you think i'm overreacting? i asked in another section but no one's gonna see it there.....

Answer 1

Label the food clearly, or keep it in a cupboard that can be locked. (Helped run a group home when I was in my 20's) Kids under 7 aren't really responsible yet, so if it was any of them there's no use being angry or holding a grudge. I suggest the room mate have a tete-a-tete with his/her kids so that the rules are clear about food and toys, and anything else that is not theirs. There should be no condemnation, but only that they not do it again and that they learn. We are all allowed to make mistakes. Tolerance begins at home.

Catholic.

Answer 2

It may have been an honest mistake. Kids may not think when reaching in the cupboard for a snack. The best bet would be to bring it up with your roommate. Tell her that you noticed that some of your food had been eaten, and that you want to be sure that you both know who's food is who's. Labeling is not a bad idea either. Whatever happens I would not get mad. It was only food and again, most likely a mistake. Whatever you , be sure and do it in a peaceful and respectful manner. =)

Blessed Be
Kayla

Answer 3

It is a matter of respect...that is, the fact that respecting other people's things hasn't kicked in or been learned yet.

However, when you live with people, even family, there seems to be some things that unknowingly slips into the realm of "nothing is sacred"--food is one of them. Kids are going to eat anything and everything, not because they don't respect you...because they are HUNGRY! and snacks are a kid's mainstay. You really kinda set yourself up there. If there is something you want to reserve specifically for your child, go to a craft shop and pick up a wooden box with a latch so it can be locked. Keep it in your room. Then when you want to break it out you can.

Now, please let me hear that you are not letting your child snack in front of the others while they go without. That would be just plain rude.

Answer 4

I would DEFFINITLY bring it up with the other roommate, but, this does not really give you grounds to take off and move. That would be a lot of work and headaches. If worse comes to worse and it's not settled with words, stop there and get a small minifridge and a lockbox. Make sure your daughter and you know the combonations, no one else. Place your food and items in the two locked containers. You shouldn't have problems of missing items beyond this point.

Hope it works out for you.

(Buddhist, since you asked)

Answer 5

Your roommates kids are pretty young and honestly, probably didn't think eating food at their parent's house was going to be a big deal. Talk to the room mate and let him know that it's OK if his/her kids eat it, just make sure the roomy replaces it before your daughter comes again. A friendship or living arrangement is not worth loosing over a few snacks.

Answer 6

whats religion got to do with this common sense, ask your roommate if they were eaten by mistake that way she should check and see just what happen saying shes aware start keeping the snacks in the room where you sleep lock the door when you leave whats livid not sure what that spell good luck and hope snacks want end a friendship

Answer 7

I had a roommates child who did that to me once. I had gotten specific food for my youngest sisters visit and he ate it all.

Honestly, when I confronted her she got pissy and the friendship ended which was stupid but such was her attitude.

I would take the specific foods, that dont need refridgeration, and put your name on them and in your room. If you dont wanna do that then mark the lines.

I would talk to your roommate too and explain what happened and see what goes from there. She needs to know and understand its unacceptable but this can be done with respect to all and no harsh words,etc (at least on your part, cant control her).

Good Luck!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

It is rude and disrespectful for that to happen, but in the end it is just food. Keep trying to find out who did it and then let them know how bad it hurts you. Then give them the benefit of the doubt. If it then happens again, get a lock box for your stuff.

Answer 10

as long as there are children around... just figure on sharing what goodies you buy.

but.. if you can find a hiding place.. then hide some specially for your child.. just in case the other kids eat all the goodies you buy before your child gets a share of them.

if you dont have a hiding place, then buy a lock chest.
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from one who comes from a big family.
and is a christian.
check my profile for more info.
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having some goodies right now sounds like a good idea.
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