how should i handle this?

Question

my roommate has kids ranging from 4 to 13, i have one who is 2 1/2 and she is with me 2 weeks at a time. i buy our own food and toiletries, and keep them separate. i went shopping today and as i was putting my groceries away i found all of the snacks and crackers my daughter likes are gone. just empty packages put back on the shelf. i asked the kids about it and they totally denied it, but i don't think it's my roommate. i am livid about this, i feel it's disrespectful. how would you handle this? or do you think i'm overreacting?

i'm gonna star my own question so all my contacts will see it.

i guess i can't do that...lol

Answer 1

I can star it. :-)

I've missed you so much here! If this is the first time it's happened then I'd advise you just to tell your roommate. It seems a lot of people are overreacting. Unless you've had problems with her before I don't see why telling her would be harmful in any way. Many of us work just to make ends meet. I can vouch for that, baby. Talk to your roommate, be diplomatic, and ask her what she thinks is best - should you label your items? Put a lock on your pantry? I wouldn't suggest the lock idea unless she seems unmoved by the fact that her children have taken your food. The kids shouldn't be punished but should know for the future that this equates to stealing and is unacceptable. They all sound pretty young. If your roommate is a good one she'll offer to pay you back for the groceries.

Good luck, honey! (((Agnosticmom)))

P.S. If she has a problem with it, send her to me and I'll straighten her right out.

Answer 2

If it wasn't you, and it wasn't your 2 1/2 year old, then of course it was your roommate or the kids. Speak to your roomie, he/she is responsible for his/her kids and their behavior. You have every right to expect to be repaid for the food that was taken. Ask your roommate to explain to the kids that not all of the food in the house is for them. Even if you keep your food separate, I'd begin marking your packages with a permanent marker.
Good relations between roommates are important, and mistakes will be made. If this is the first offense, after you speak to the roommate about it, forgive and forget. If it continues, sit down with your roomie and let him/her know you will not tolerate theft in your home.

Bottom line, I do not think you are overreacting.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

talk to your room mate about it. Tell her that you were wondering if her kids ate your kids snacks "by mistake" because you found empty packages put back on the shelf. Make sure you say "by mistake". That gives her a chance not to get her back up about it. And also to say that she will check into it. Then let it go. I know you are livid. But once you speak to her you will feel better and if she is a decent person, she "might" replace them, but at the very least she will probably talk to her kids about it. And be sure next time to put labels with you and your kids names on them. That way, there won't be any more mistakes.
good luck

Answer 5

They are kids and when they see a snack they will eat it not caring who it belongs to or who paid for it. You can talk to your room mate but this may cause a fight. If she asks her kids about it, and they lied to you, then they will probably lie to her. I would forget about it this time and from now on keep all your valuables, including snacks in your room locked up if necessary. It can hard living with a room mate so if you can I would look for a place of your own. If that is not possible then maybe a room mate with no children. By the way, I would get mad too since I paid for the food and they were for my baby.

Answer 6

First thing, I would politely approach my roommate and explain that you had bought some snacks but cannot seem to find where they disappeared to. Ask her if she has seen them. I always give people the benefit of the doubt, but, if I am not getting answer and I know that some fairy didn't blink in and make it disappear, then I start digging till I find the answer. I would say I saw the wrappers in the garbage and wanted to know who ate them, scare the crap out of the kids. If nothing works, I would start locking my dry snacks up in a seperate cabinet. If you think they may still be breaking in and getting to your stuff, then it may be time to look for housing elsewhere.

Answer 7

The 13 year old should know what to eat and not to eat, but the 4 year old likely can't.

There is a simple solution to this. Put your food, labeled, in one cupboard. That cupboard should be up high - since obviously your 2 1/2 year old is not getting them out her self. Talk to all the kids about the cost of food and that those are snacks or your child and to please leave them alone.

If that doesn't work- time to get a cupboard with a lock.

Answer 8

No, you are not overreacting at all. OBVIOUSLY it was your roommate's kids who stole and then they lied about it (what kind of kids are these and are you sure you want them living with you????) In future, until you can get rid of the roommate and her gang of nasty kids, get a container that you can lock and keep the key. Or keep them in your room, in your closet, and keep your room locked, which you should do anyway. That's the ONLY way you will be able to keep those little liars from stealing again.

Answer 9

Overreacting? No, I don't think so. If you are sure it was your roommate's kids who did this then politely speak to your roommate about it as her kids are her responsibility. Either that or keep your items in a secured place where your roommate's kids can't get a hold of them.

Answer 10

You're overreacting a little, but you're entitled to be irritated. You don't have to conduct an investigation. Just tell your roommate that her kids have mistakenly eaten the snacks you purchased for your daughter, and you'd appreciate it if she would replace the snacks before your daughter arrived. Then she can yell at the kids herself.