He was flirting way too much with another girl, calling and flattering her since Wednesday. I found out because she called me. He says he means well, that he cares about me, that I'm the best thing going for him right now, that he likes me a lot, doesn't want to lose me and he wasn't planning on taking it to another level with her. He told her he was sorry for leading her on and that he doesn't want to ruin things with me. After we discussed it and he apologized, knowing he messed up BAD because I usually NEVER do the second chance thing, I started ignoring him. My friends say everyone deserves a second chance. Do I give him another chance? Under what conditions? How do you re-build the trust after someone ruins it in the first 2 months?
2007-12-02 10:07:58 · 15 answers · asked by iNQUiRiNG ♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether or not you give him another chance is entirely up to you. From what you've said, he didn't really do anything wrong. ESPECIALLY since you guys are "talking" not dating. You two are not exclusive as of yet so if he wants to "talk" to other girls, he is completely entitled to without you getting pissed.
However, it seems that you like this guy a lot and that is great. It seems that he has apologized and has been behaving since you called him out. Whether you give him another chance or not is up to you but I would. Also, don't ignore him. That never fixes anything.
2007-12-02 10:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The guy is a player and you know it.
He strings girls along so that he is not left dateless when one gets mad at him or for another reason.
Ask girls who also know the game well enough. No one, not even you, want to play second fiddle. But if nothing is serious in the relationship yet, dont expect him to be all that devoted to you either already. Like you said , you and he are just "talking".
2007-12-02 18:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok trust is a big thing with me once someone loses it its hard to earn back. he has to work for your trust kind of do trustworthy things prove to you he can be trusted even though trust is a big thing is someone screws up and theyre sorry and mean it they deserve a second chance but dont worry you'll know if hes worth giving your trust back.
2007-12-02 18:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by xxxitsbrittlikewoahxxx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should give him a second chance. He leaded this girl on...it shows the way he treats people. I don't know if you would like this for you later.
2007-12-02 18:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off let him know you were hurt a little..but dont go to far to were it makes u cry. then dont start out TOTALL best friendy just say hey at random talk a little until u know ur "Cool" again then just talk like you did but if he does it again just let him know hes gone to far and that u dont want to be hurt agian! dont let one man ruin it yall can still be friends if yall think thats ok nowhere does it say yall cant! Hope i helped!
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2007-12-02 18:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by auburngirl924 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him a chance. there is no perfect relationship. BUT if he at the second time, stepped at the same ****, then better not dare to give him a third chance cause there's a big possibility that it would lead to a fourth, a fifth, nth ... chances
2007-12-02 18:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by stupidjerk 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would give him another chance. just tell him you do not like him flirting with other women and all. it will take some time.
2007-12-02 18:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by brownsuga 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that two months is still pretty early. Just keep "talking" to him, dating, and stuff and see where things go from there. Ignoring him isn't going to work all that great. If something about the situation still bothers you, than it's clear that you haven't gotten it off your chest already, and maybe you should. Just don't rush things,talk and see where things go from there.
2007-12-02 18:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok, the cold should is a little immature.
yes, id give him another chance...but only if he PROVES he can be worthy of you.
everyone is my eyes deserves a second chance regardless...but not a third.
2007-12-02 18:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by your last resort 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get involved with him tooooo soon. I think you should just stay friends with him for awhile and be with him alot, just until you feel you can trust him again.
2007-12-02 18:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by pocahontas. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋