2007-12-02 10:06:27 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
I believe that when an adoptee turns 18 or even 21, they should be entitled to easy access to their records, if THEY choose. I believe that it is their choice whether or not to make contact with the bio family (in most cases).
However, I do know that there are sometimes where bio-parents do not want the records open for whatever reason. It is usually a small percentage, but it does exist. In these cases, I do believe that an adoptee still should have a right to know "who" their parent is, but that the file should be noted that the parent does not want contact. If a parent changes their mind in those 18 years, then it would be the parents' responsibility to update the records to provide the information needed to contact them.
I'm sure I'll get crucified for the answer that I provided, and to be honest, I'm not an adoptee so I cannot speak 100% to their feelings. But I do know that when my son is ready, I will make every effort that I can to try to help him find his bio parents if HE chooses to. I think that it is important as an adoptive parent to support his choice.
edit - I agree with Healing's answer too. She has made me rethink my thoughts - it should be the adoptee's right and then the birth mom can say no at that time. Thanks for making me reconsider my thoughts, Healing! Email me sometime. : )
2007-12-02 10:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by BPD Wife 6 · 9⤊ 4⤋
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2016-05-27 07:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I do my husband is adopted and would love to have the medical parts of it.Like everyone said when you go for your doc appointment if something is wrong you have to say don't know adopted that hurts,I think that the parents names should be known at the same time if the birth mom chooses to with hold that well than let it be.It would be great to have that option
Back in the day it was such a shame to get pregnant out of wedlock the woman were hidden most of the the time there family and friends never even knew that there was baby the mother just went away to visit a friend or some other story was made up it is not like that these days the adoption laws that we are forced to go by were originally written so far back times have changed so I think the laws need to change with it
2007-12-03 04:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by what did you say 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes because their civil rights are currently being violated in this country. I am an adoptee who has fought for her country, who is also married to a veteran, who is also responsible enough to deliver mail for my country. I am also responsible enough to raise my children, work for a major communications company, pay taxes and so forth. I am not responsible enough to see my original birth certificate. It is a document that records MY birth no one elses. The state is holding my OBC in seizure based on lies and myths put out by the adoption industry. If adoption has be potential to create harm then the state should explain why adoption is allowed to be practiced. Are adoptive parents, adoptees,and natural parents harmful to each other? Its our lives. Its time we take control back.
2007-12-04 07:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by amyburt40 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course! sealing the birth records of adoptees and not the rest of the population is discrimination and a violation of human and civil rights
Adoptees deserve to be treated equally to non-adopted people, anything else deems them as second class citizens and further stigmatizes adoption
The rest of the civilized world has opened records to adult adoptees and the world has not ended!. America is living in the dark ages.
2007-12-03 04:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by H****** 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Yes, adopted children NEED to know their medical history, if even just that much was available on a continually updated basis than that is better than what most have at the moment.
2007-12-03 04:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
FABULOUS QUESTION!!!!
Yes, I do think adoption records should be open to all adoptees over 18. This information is the fundamental right of every human being. Adoptees are no exception. Everybody has the right to know his/her original parents and whatever info is on the birth certificate, which is available to all other non-adoptees. It is a fundamental human right. Period.
2007-12-02 21:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by . 4 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think adoptions records should be open to adoptees 18 and over.
A parent is no longer financially or physically responsible for their child at 18.
So an 18 year old should be able to easily find out the information and birth parents should just deal with their choice of placement and all involved adults should act with kindess, and be thankfull of life.
2007-12-02 11:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 2⤋
I know very little about the adoption process... I'm sure there a lot of different circumstances, and it could cause a lot of pain for some people, but it seems like it should be the right of any adopted ADULT to see the records. Adoption is more popular now than ever, it doesn't seem like it should be a big secret like it might have been many years ago.
2007-12-02 10:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by roh_8171 3 · 8⤊ 4⤋
Absolutely!
Adult adoptees should have the rights of all other citizens.
In Australia we've had open records since the early 90's.
It has not meant that there has been a sudden increase of attacks on first families - or on adoptive families.
Any one who argues such things hasn't really thought things through.
Having access to the information doesn't mean that adoptees WILL contact their first family.
No matter if they wish to search or not - it should be their right to have the information as it pertains to them. It's their information - no one else's.
Having the information will assist in all adoptees finding out who they are and where they came from.
Something that all people should be able to know.
2007-12-02 13:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 15⤊ 2⤋