Fear of commitment?

Question

If you are afraid of commitment and youve been with a guy you dated for about 5 and a half months, is it common to leave them while still liking them?

Ive been hurt a lot in my past [especially in relationships] and now, I hate the title of "boyfriend" "girlfriend". 5 months is like WOAH. The whole relationship Ive been confused; trying to leave all the time. He would obviously make me feel happy, give me warm feelings etc, but a lot of the times I'd feel nothing. Lately, Ive been looking at a lot of guys and I felt as if I could really move on from him, just say no to the relationship. I was happy, like okaay moving on and then last night we were at a show and I couldnt help but flirt with him and I wanted to hug him so badly so I did and then i ended up kissing him. Just being in his arms would make me happy and feel good. But at the moment I feel nothing again and Im casually talking to this guy I feel interested in. Gosh, Im so confused. What do I feel?? What do I do??

Answer 1

You need to get counseling, definitely! Why should the titles of "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" bother you so? You couldn't help but flirt with him? HULLO! You're setting him up for disappointment and possible hurt if you can't feel anything back!!!

That's sadistic! Tease him and get him hoping then NOTHING.

Get help.

Answer 2

Honestly why care? Really? YOur still maturing, what do you think it just happens that we know how to love people? WHat book did you read on how to love people? THats right there isn't a book, so go be what-ever you want, eventually you'll find the path, or find hell in your own right, its just the way it works. You doing better then most, relationships are more then just two terms thrown around, but you seem like you at that point were you don't HOPE for anything, with anyone, so just screw around. Ether you'll find your purpose or you won't...... its your life, take it as you want, but trust if you miss what you need, your the only one who suffers..... also, past relationship hardships, our your fault, learn to pick better....