Do you ever get tired of having to try so hard, all the time :) ?

Question

If, no matter how hard you try, nothing (you?) is ever good enough...

Thank you for your answers! :)

Have a wonderful week ahead! :)

Hugs and love to you all :)

Answer 1

Unfortunately I know only too well.

You try and you try. You give and you give. But it's never enough, they just complain and demand more until you feel as though they've zapped all the energy and life out of you. You end up so tired and empty, with nothing left to give and then they get even more mad.

I glad it's only a few people who are being this way to me. Unfortunately, one of them meant a lot to me, but I just can't do it anymore.

((((Moon))))

Answer 2

I just hate when your not asking for others opinions on something you are trying rally hard to do, that is only for your own benefit, and someone criticizes you.

For example: A few weeks ago I was playing piano, as a creative, and fun outlet since I was under the stress of a lot of work. I forget what song I was playing, but it was my first time playing it, and I had the sheet music. My mother, in the other room while I'm playing cries out to me "You're playing the wrong note!" I say that I'm not, that I'm reading the music and such. She then continues to say that she knows that song very well and it isn't right. I was just like, fine, I won't play then. I couldn't even help myself, I was so discouraged and frustrated that I started crying. It was the first time I had played piano in months, and it was for my own personal benefit, to help myself out, and my mom made it so it wasn't good enough, and set standards for it even though I didn't set standards for it myself. I have barely touched the piano since then. I know I shouldn't let the experience keep me down or anything, but for some reason I just can't help it. Music is one of my creative outlets, I don't want anyone telling me that it isn't good enough unless I ask.

Answer 3

Hi ((Moon)) ... I think we all experience that at some point in out lives. When you feel that you're down it's how you respond that matters. If you give up then you'll always feel like that and won't put the effort into something to succeed. If you respond by trying even harder that nothing can keep you down..you'll have the drive to succeed and that will spill over into everything that you do. And victory in the end will be sweet instead of the bitter taste of defeat.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

My father and my husband are both perfectionists/control freaks who expect everything to be done to their exacting standards. It hurts to know that no matter what I do, it will never be right unless it's absolutely their way.

And believe me, I know exactly what you mean when you say you will never be good enough. I love my husband and my dad, but sometimes I wish they would see what their criticism has done to my heart and sense of self-worth over the years.

Unfortunately, I don't think either one of them is capable of understanding that, so all I can do is accept them for what they are. . .even if they can't do the same for me.

((((Moon)))) Hang in there, sweetie -- others appreciate you just the way you are, even if some people can't or won't.

Answer 6

{{{{{Moon}}}}}

YOu are not alone! I think a lot of people out here feel that way at times. I like the advice the others gave you. You cannot please everyone and no matter how hard you try, you will not be able to make everyone happy.

May I share a Bible verse that helps me when I feel this way?

Take a look at Psalms 121:2
My strength comes from the Lord, the Maker of Heaven and Earth.

Remember, even Jesus knew he had to rely upon others from time to time...in the Garden of Gesthemene, he asked for his disciples to watch and pray with him. As Christians, we are the body of Christ...why? Because we cannot be everything to everyone. That's why we gather together as a community in faith and pray and support one another.

So, when you are down and out, it's okay to run for help, okay???

And you know what? I'd much rather be around someone who is not perfect and is willing to admit they make mistakes and need help. People who can't admit they make mistakes
or need help, either are unwilling to stretch themselves or are not being honest with others.

So, my friend, welcome to the world of the honest and imperfect people.

In Christian Sisterhood...Searcher

Answer 7

Moon, if you're trying to please someone else then it'll NEVER be good enough. You are NOT in their head so you have NO idea what it actually takes to satisfy that person. If you are trying to please yourself with the quality of what you do, then you will ALWAYS find the flaws. The problem is, are you able to recognize that point at which you can say to yourself, "I've done my best, it's going to simply have to do". And then walk away satisfied that you HAVE given it your best shot, imperfections and all. Look back at it and say that what you did WAS good even if it wasn't perfect.

Brightest Blessings,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 8

I do get tired sometimes, but I find solace in prayer and just taking a deep breath and having a good cry. I cry because I take my burdens to God and when I sense His healing presence washing over me, I am overwhelmed by the love that He shows me and the knowledge that He would love me enough to care about my pain. Sorry if that sounds too preachy, but it is how I feel. I hope I've helped.

Take care, sweetheart. :) (((((((Moon)))))))

Answer 9

When I was younger this was something that pulled me under everyday.

Now that I have reached a greater age [ahem] I've discovered the peace is in doing something to my own satisfaction.

Maybe you could use all my years of frustration and hurt to subtract from the ones in front of you and start on the road of doing things for the sake of simply performing the tasks to the best of your ability and being content within.

Answer 10

I felt like that this whole last week and being sick isn't helping. Nobody seems to appreciate anything and still expects the same from me even though I am not doing so great. I still do the best I can, but it would be easier if others showed some appreciation for my efforts.

Hi Moon. (((HUG))) for you.