We've been together 5 months, and it's really great. But almost since the beginning he has been dropping marriage into the conversation. Not like about me and him doing it, just talking about it and his friends who are engaged or married, and about how cool it owuld be to spend your life with one person etc. Then a few weeks ago we were walking past some new flats that were being built and he said, jokingly, "We should get one of those together and start a little family". I laughed it off. But then just yesterday I was talking about moving home,and he said, I thought we were gonna get that flat together and start a family. He was still joking, it wasn't said seriously, but still, do you think it's weird for a man in his mid-twenties to bring stuff like this up with a gf after only 5 months of being together? Do you think he means anything by it?
2007-12-02 09:41:00 · 22 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably testing you to see if you respond in kind to see how serious you are. A lot of guys talk hypothetically about marriage to try and get a read on the girls feelings before proposing. I think he's serious.
2007-12-02 09:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Concerned Citizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I wouldn't really say it was weird, maybe too soon perhaps, especially if you've only been going out for 5 months. Perhaps he just loves you so much that he's kinda dropping hints that someday he dreams of marrying you & maybe starting a family. Maybe you're right. Maybe he is just kidding around with you. But if it's really worrying you that much, try talking to him about it. If he says he's only kidding, then everything's cool. If he's serious & you don't feel now is the best time to get married & have kids, then just tell him that. Tell him you're not ready to make that kind of commitment & that you need more time.
I've never been in that situation before, so I really hope I've helped a little.
2007-12-02 09:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by highland_white_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, I'm 24 and married. Sounds like he is interested in determining if you are in it for the long haul. Guys don't usually bring up that "M" word unless either they are forced at knife point, or they are actually into you.
My wife and i moved in together after 6 months, we were engaged in a year, and married in two. Now 4 years into it, I'm thinking why did i move so fast. if only i would have waited. Hope this helps.
2007-12-02 09:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by scottybauer2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem a little weird to you because he may be moving faster than you want to go. All you need to do is sit him down and tell him how you're feeling right now. It may be hard to communicate that he needs to slow down, but it's either that or you're guaranteed to get in an argument about it one of these days, when he's no longer joking. If he's really the guy you wan't to be with, then he should be willing to slow down in order to make a good comfort level in the relationship for you.
-Bailey
2007-12-02 09:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing wrong with it. But is he saying that cause he feels that's what u want to here. Ask him straight out, what he thinks. Tell him u don't want to even think about marriage for a while. U are happy with where the relationship is and have no plans to change it. It is OK to talk about the future, and u should be happy he talks about it with u.
2007-12-02 09:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by jobu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird, maybe rushing things a bit, but it's not weird. He obviously is ready to settle down. I think he does mean something by it and I think that is that he either 1) Loves you and wants to be with you. or 2) He is jealous that his married and engaged friends have found happiness and he wants to settle because they have. It could also be a mix of the two. If you aren't ready for that kind of committment, tell him so.
2007-12-02 09:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's quite natural for a man in his mid 20's to be thinking about marriage, commitment and family. It may be somewhat awkward for him to talk about this to you openly as it sounds like he really fancies you and may be afraid of being rejected. If you like him in the same way, then encourage him to be straight with you about his feelings and hopes for a future, with you, of course.
2007-12-02 09:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 07:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he seriously wants to marry you. He says it in a joking way, but inside, he wants to be with you. He wouldn't bring up this stuff for nothing.
2007-12-02 09:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is serious but saying it in a kidding way. he keeps saying this in a kidding way because he wants to know how you would feel about spending the rest of your life with him. he wants to know everything is clear just in case he does ask you to marry him. if you don't want to marry him say along the lines of ''yeah, that would be cute but idk how people could get married so fast, i would want to wait at least [_whatever age_] until im married. or something like that. if you do want to get marries be like '' yeah that would be a lot of fun starting our own little family.'' or something like that
Hope i helped =]
2007-12-02 09:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by pattycakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋