MY Daughter IS DEPRESSED!!!!!?

Question

my daughter is thirteen and no matter what i do she is always sad or crying
in the last few months she watched a horrible quad accident that her friend was killed in
Her best friend has been sent to a special hospital for eating disorders and i honestly don't remember the last time i saw her smile
do u think suicide is sumthin to watch for
how do i make her happy

okay so it's not my daughter it's me but if i had told you that you would not have been as honest because nobody wants to tell a 13 year old they are crazy u no whut i mean srry for lying and thx for the input

Answer 1

I would suggest therapy, it sounds like she needs to talk this out and find a way out of this feeling.

Answer 2

With just this small amount of information, I am sure that depression is an accurate diagnosis for your daughter. Teenagers that are depressed are very susceptible to suicide or self-destructive behaviors (cutting themselves,
drugs--illegal or over the counter, eating disorders) so pay close attention to where she is and what she is doing. I think you should get her professional help immediately. You can't make her happy----it's not just a bad day--- her brain is not functioning normally. Depression doesn't always require medication. There are other ways that she (and you) can deal with it but she needs to be evaluated by a professional first. Try talking to her school's guidance counselor and they may be able to help with finding a doctor or treatment facility. Please don't try to wait it out----I have seen situations like this end in tragedy too often.

Answer 3

Witnessing a friend die is is a incredible tragedy and will be burned on her brain for life and will take years to be able to cope with that. And going threw the hormones that a young girl goes through anyway make it that much harder.
I have a 12 year old daughter and watching her go through puberty and the hormone changes is like watching a TV on the fritz.I feel for you and I suggest to keep a eye on here and you both should go to therapy together and help each other to get though this tough part of your lives.Good luck!

Answer 4

Take her for counseling right a way. Look into someone that specializes in teens. She has obviously been through quite a bit. You probably can't make her happy. It has nothing to do with you. Depression in teens can be really hard to see. They are already kind of emotional and hormonal. My daughter went through that and went missing for a week. Trust me, you don't want to go through that. Just get her into counseling. Try and find a younger female that specializez in teens. If after a few visits, your daughter doesn't like her, find someone else. Keep looking until you find someone that she is comfortable talking to. She will decide if your daughter may needs meds or not.

Answer 5

I'm 15 I was depressed at one time too. Hell i still might be dperessed.
I think you should just think of the positive things in life. Your friend or her firend is in a better place now. and Maybe see a doctor and tell them wahts goind on. I had a doctor who gave me welbutrin and i take it twice a day adn i feel so much better about myself and about life in genereal. I was so depressed at one point where i didnt even want to leave the house. I didnt want to go to football games andymore because i knew i would see alot of people out there. I lost alot of friends i think you shoulda handle it now before you have the same problems i did. losing frineds is no good and theres no telling what else can happeen if you dont get it treated soon

Answer 6

Spend time with her one on one... the people she cares about are being taken from her one by one. Let her know you're not going anywhere. Also, counseling is a great idea... make sure you find one she's comfortable with though. It may take a few tries to get it right (believe me... I was in counseling from the time I was twelve until the time I was 21). If it's not ABSOLUTELY necessary, I wouldn't try and put her on any anti-depressants... these can actually CAUSE suicidal thoughts in children and teenagers. She'll get through this. Good luck.

Answer 7

Sounds like your daughter has gone through a very tramatic situation that could use counseling. The only way she is going to get through this is by being allowed to talk about her feeling, and knowing that it's ok to be sad sometimes. You have to be available for her to talk to. For now let her talk to you without judgement or don't try to do anything to solve her problems. It's hard watching someone you love in so much pain, but she has to learn how to pull herself out. When she's talking to you ask her how she's really feeling, and if she tells you she feels sad. Let her know it's ok to feel sad, and then ask her what can she do to feel better. Good luck, your family will be in my prayers. The best things you can do is get her professional counseling, listen, and be available to her.

Answer 8

Thats so sad. I would probably be just like her if that happened to me.
I think you should buy her something she always wanted and get her to go to therapy. Can the place that her best friend is at have visitors? You could take her to visit her friend.
I know when I'm mad or sad I hate when my mom asks me questions like "Are you ok?" "do you want to talk about it?" "what happened in school today?" because the last thing I need is to talk about something that horrible. I know thats kind of weird advice to not ask her questions but I wish some one would tell my mom that. lol.
good luck :]

Answer 9

I'am 13 and yes suicide is something you should watch out for. You sjould really sit down with her and talk to her, put her in some clubs and sports. Make her life more active. If i watched my friend die i would too be depressed. But there is also another problem it is a trend now being depresed i don't know what idiot came up with it but it is aweful. But talk to her ask her what is going on maybe she nedds to fill her life again more. And good luck. Tell her that there are plp out there are hurting just because they are seeing her sad.

Answer 10

Sounds like your daughter's having a rough time, and if I knew her better I might worry about suicide, but, not knowing her at all, I can't tell.
Either way, you need to be a friend to her now. Don't judge her, ask her about her feelings, and listen to her. Tell her you love her and let her know you're there for her.
And, if you haven't already, find a professional for her to talk to.

Answer 11

As someone who went through it here is my advice.
1. Do not push her to talk to YOU. If she wants to, she will.
2. Send her to a psychiatrist. They can diagnose her and medicate her (if needed) and offer her therapy.
3. Be patient with her. You want to make her feel better without trying TOO hard. Kids aren't stupid, if you are just doing things to try to cheer her up it will probably make her more upset b/c it'll remind her of why you are trying to cheer her up.
4. Watch out for her without being pushy and intrusive. Unfortunately suicide is always a possibility. So you want to watch out for her without being pushy.
5. Be there for her!! Just knowing you are there for her can be enough!
Good Luck!!