Iam 43 and seeing a 38 year old man. He works alot of overtime. Ive been seeing him for over 5 weeks now.He lives closeby as well.
The past 3 weeks, he has broken the plans we had on our 'days" together or it has been dwindled down to 2 hours together. This apologized as he has a busy schedule,hes trying to save alot to get his daughter in a custody suit coming in March. He also has not been well, a van fell on him last summer and he may have a ruptured kidney that needs surgery. But for this past weekend, he promised me he'd be free all sat and sunday days and for me to plan something I'd like to do somewhere with him and we would go. I even asked a girl at work to help me as Im new to this city and she had some suggestions. I had bought tickets for something we could go see and he did not contact me all weekend. Not even a phone call. His cellular voicemail is out of order but he does know when I call. He may be working out of cellular range. What shoudl I do with this man??
2007-12-02 09:27:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let him know how you feel about what is happening. Be polite, tell him that you understand his situation is challenging, but you also want to feel that you are a part of his life and that you expect a curteousy of knowing what's going on and being kept informed is he is going to break your plans. It is very nice of you to support him in the difficult times, but you also want him to have the same respect for you as you have for him. Tell him that you would appreciate if he didn't just leave you hanging waiting for him to resolve his problems and to get around to calling you. As much as you like to be with him, you can't just put your life completely on hold. I can understand, we all have emergencies, but if he had a spare moment, he should have at least called.
2007-12-05 05:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You clearly haven't yet percolated to the top of his life's priorities. That custody case probably looms VERY large for him, and he's not without other issues. It's early enough to go with "this isn't working out" but far too soon for an ultimatum, IF YOU WANT to stay with this man.
If another promised weekend evaporates, maybe go with "this isn't working out". It's both honest, and gives him a little room to re-engage if you're open to the idea.
2007-12-02 09:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I looked up seducing. It says to break a few dates to give the woman some space. Just tell him you want to go out on one REAL date and if he cancels again break-up with him because he is giving you too much space.
2007-12-02 09:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you must look pretty hott for your age :] other ladies yer age must be really jealous lol. umm but im not being sarcastic :P
2007-12-02 09:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by judy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a van ...fell on him?
that doesnt happen often. haha.
uhm..he's busy. give him time. talk to him about it if you can
2007-12-02 09:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by christianberliew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh, gai love is so cute
2007-12-02 09:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by KodaiRye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋