I am a virgin in my past i have been known to be a wild child doin things i am not to proud of and came close a few times to goin all the way with a guy, drugs use to be the factor of most of my times i have only messed with 2 guys my bf now and my past one but i have cooled down alot got out of all that stuff and everything the guy i am with now i love so much he is great he does not know much about my past and what i was like but thats not my problem my prob is that we mess around every now and then but he wants to go all the way and that like what he talks about alot to i dont think thats what he is in it 4 cuz if he was he would have been gone by now but every time we are about to go all the way i freeze its like a flash back to my younger times when i was wild and i just like stop and get up and just tell him i dont want to do it y do you think u have to and this and that we have got into it a few times cuz of this and idk what to do plz help
2007-12-02 09:17:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the issue of sex or "going all the way" is going to be a part of most of your relationships and my advice to you is not to partake in it until you feel COMPLETELY comfortable. If your having negative flashbacks before you do it, i wouldn't advise that you go through with it. Maybe something is telling you that your just not ready. Tell your boyfriend about your past...keeping secrets never helps relationships. Then at least he will understand why you keep getting up and ruining the moment.
2007-12-02 09:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take a deep breathe and type a bit more clearly please. Then, after calming down a LOT, tell this guy about what's bugging you and all that. If he gets a cramp in his style over it all, then toss him overboard and move on. There are REAL men out there willing to wait for their partners to be ready and not jump the gun per se. Being a "wild child" doesn't mean having to be a s-l-u-t. Having a past doesn't mean that you can't have your standards today and tomorrow too. Seriously though, tell him about your past. If he's willing to accept you AND take his time with you AND give his all for you, then he's all that. If he gets the "so what?" attitude, then toss him already and warn al your friends about him too.
2007-12-02 17:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl u know i'm not gonna lead you astray. You are evidently not ready for it. I'm tryin not to give you a bias answer cause you know i wanna be with you, but here it goes. You say you freeze when ya'll start messing around, your not ready mentaly and/or emotionaly. I'm not real sure what to tell you. You know i'm here for you though. I love you.
2007-12-02 21:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by LOST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to someone who has been there.If u freeze then don't push yourself to do it. Your mind is not ready. You've been through alot and if he truely loves u he will stick around until your ready.If he doesn't sick around then be glad u didn't do anything.Congrats on your recovery and good luck.
2007-12-02 17:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me if this guy really cares for you he will be willing to wait until YOU are ready. He will not pressure you and will try and at least understand.
2007-12-02 18:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋