I am a new step mom but really don't feel like it. Last Christmas I felt weird about this and again this year. How do I sign my Christmas cards. My step son is 16 and he is never at our house. He has never slept over at our place once. I rarely ever see him. Last year I seny out Christmas cards to my family just from my husband and me and to my husbands family from all of us (me, husband, step son.). I just feel so wierd about this because I really don't feel like his step mom or act in a motherly way to him because he doesn't live with us and is never over. What do you do in this situation?
2007-12-02 09:02:59 · 7 answers · asked by Violet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Holiday (and other) cards are meant to be a personal gift from a person/family to his/her/their loved ones. If your step-son is not involved actively in your life or the lives of your loved ones, there is no reason to force him to take responsibility for the gift by signing his name to the card.
You included his name on the cards that were sent to people that he has a relationship with, so you didn't offend anyone who he would not want to offend. And you didn't try to force a relationship between him and your loved ones with whom he has no relationship. As a step-daughter, myself (I'm an adult with a college degree, not a child--for clarification), I think you handled things very well.
There is no reason why you cannot add his name in future years, once the relationships are established with you and your loved ones. If the relationships never happen, I would say you won't offend anyone by leaving his name off of cards for people he doesn't know. If he comes to you that he is offended, explain your side of the story, and then add his name.
2007-12-02 09:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say because he is not in you house and is almost 18 it is not that big a deal. Or you could just include his name and maybe the two of you might develop a close relationship. I think either way your okay. Good luck P.S How does your husband feel about it.
2007-12-02 15:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by feeona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could avoid the situation altogether by just signing the card
"From the Smiths" or "From the Smith Family"
That way his holiday greeting can be presumed by those in the family that wish to do so.
2007-12-02 09:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by charelisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a blended family, too. We sign our Christmas cards from
The YOURNAMEHERE Family, then all of our first names
The Smith Family
Dan & Becky
Todd, Joseph, Mark and Jenny
2007-12-02 09:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl623 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom and Dad, Merry Christmas Love, (child's name)
2016-05-27 07:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did ok last year, just use your first names. People will get it.
2007-12-02 09:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by Phartzalot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you FEEL doesn't make it fact.
the fact is, he's your step-son and your husband's son.
(sign it)
Xoxo,
****, Jane & Bobby
2007-12-02 09:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by pinknlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋