Of course I can't do that but I don't know why he wants me to. He used to have a thing for my friend but she never went out with him because she didn't like him like that-but they kissed a few times.
He told me that she plays mind games & has some issues (a lot of things have happened in her life). Well she said that he's called her twice asking to meet up: I know their friends but should I be concerned. I don't know if she's making it up cos she doesn't like that we're together.
Yesterday he text me knowing I was at her house, but he didn't say anything about her. I don't know what to do. If he wanted to see her why wouldn't he have come over like he said he might do cos she's not home during the week
2007-12-02 08:38:07 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been seeing each other for 2 weeks
2007-12-02 08:42:08 · update #1
Be careful, this young man seems to be causing a potential rip between you and your best friend. Tread lightly across this path.
Why doesn't he want her to know? Does he still like her?
Take initiative in this relationship and ask what the hell is up with this whole situation. It sounds wrong, don't you think?
2007-12-02 08:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are pretty young, and that your boyfriend isn't committed to you. Otherwise he would want everyone to know that you are a couple. It's also a little suspicous that he still hangs out with a female that he kissed. He's probably just playing the field.
If you're as young as I might guess, then you're more likely to establish a friendship that will last than an intimate relationship. So talk to your friend about him. Also, if you're intimate with your boyfriend, I would stop and see if he sticks around, but he probably won't cuz it sounds like his heart and mind aren't in the right place. word.
2007-12-02 08:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Joe C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is at best fishy.
I would wonder what his problem is, that he feels he must control the situation (and you) by keeping things under wraps.
In my experience, when one partner wants to keep a relationship a secret, it is usually because they have something going on with someone else and would like to have both relationships at the same time.
This is dangerous in a time of HIV and Hepatitis.
I can tell you that your best friend will be with you a lot longer than this guy.
I would tell the guy that your friendship and your friend deserve your loyalty, not him. He can either go public, or go, period.
As for your friend, you owe her your honesty and openness.
That is if you two really are friends.....
2007-12-02 08:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by chris_at_lucas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it me it sounds like your boyfriend has pulled a classic guy move. You find 2 girls who are friends and you like both but decide you like one more then the other. So he went after her hoping he would win her over and when he decided he couldn't get anywhere with her he settled for you. The reason he wants to keep it a secret is because he is still possible trying to get with your friend or if things dont work out between you to he could return to trying to get with her. Hopefully im wrong and your boyfriend is just weird about people knowing who he is dating
2007-12-02 08:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to keep it a secret because he doesn't want her to know that he is going out with someone. Honestly, saying she plays mind games and has issues and then calling her to meet up - that's fishy and doesn't make sense. He's telling you he thinks she's weird to put you off the scent, and asking you not to tell her you're going out with him proves that he is fooling you.
2007-12-02 08:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is no friend. He is playing you. He is keeping you a secret while he is still trying to get your friend interested. If she finds out he's going out with you, he knows she probably won't go out with him! WAKE UP and dump the loser who would have you LIE to your best friend! What kind of jerk wants to keep being your boyfriend a secret? You don't need that.
2007-12-02 08:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by mschvs_65 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can't have an public relationship, it's not the right relationship. And if your boyfriend says things like that about your best friend, he doesn't sound like a very nice guy himself. He has issues, not her. Chuck him.
2007-12-02 08:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by la-la-lauren 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keeping relationships secret always has an important and deliberate motive behind it.
I don't know what that motive is, but you can be pretty sure that it involves something that he doesn't want her (or you) to know.
These sort of "somethings" are almost never good.
2007-12-02 08:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok you have been seeing him for two weeks and he dont want your friend to know ... but you told her anyways and she dont like you with him ? sounds like to me they might have some history thats still going on ... you only have two weeks in this id get out and see what happens between them ..or confront them both at the same time ... good luck.
2007-12-02 08:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it sounds like he is playing the both of you. hink about it if he is dating you but kissed you freind several time in the past, but don't want anything to do with because she plays game. Then why not tell her about you to? Just tell her about us guys, if he's dating the both of you then he has some explaining to do.
Just tell her.
2007-12-02 08:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ron M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋