ok how do u deal with a sister that lives at home and muches on the parents. i am at my wits end help please?

Answer 1

Plain and simple do as i did my brother...Tell her to grow up and that you are not going to allow this type of treatment for your parents whom have already spent years taking care of the both of you also make sure the parents are there to hear your concerns...Let her know they do deserve a break and to retire into a quite house with nobody to have to deal with... atleast not someone who is constantly taking atvantage of the situation and milking it for all that it is worth and thats its only fair that she move on and find someone else to use or mooch off of....I dont know hun it worked for me when i confronted my brother who was a meth addict and always stole from my mom and dad and pretty much mooched off of them tell he was 35...I think hearing it from someone other than your parents that has everything going for themselves makes a world of difference! Good luck with your situation and best wishes to you and your parents...Always J.

Answer 2

Well it really depends on her situation. Is she employed full time or going to school? If she is employed, how much money is she actually making? What is your definition of "mooching"? And how old is she exactly?

Many young people in their mid 20s to early 30s still live at home. Many of us have full time jobs but in my area monthly rent for a 1 bedroom apartment is about $850-$1200. Household expenses besides rent can run another $400-$500. That coupled with credit debt and student loans, can eat up much of our paychecks. Some people cannot even afford that much. Fortunately I can afford to live on my own but it's expensive. Maybe your sister is living home out of necessity because her finances won't allow her to have a place on her own. The bottom line is that your house probably belongs to your parents and they probably know more about her situation that you do. If they allow her to live there, there is not much you can do about it.

Answer 3

if she's a mooch, nothing you do or say to her will change that. You can say something to her about growing up and supporting herself and not being a leech on society or your folks, but honestly, you'll probably just be wasting your breath.

This is the case where your parents have to be the ones to say something and cut her off. Probably what's going on is your parents may feel sorry for your sister or feel guilty that they didn't do a better job raising her so they support her.

This is where it sucks to be the competent sibling. your parents probably see you as strong and self sufficient and they see your sister as weak and needing help.

If you are keeping score with how much they give her vs. how much they give you, you will just make yourself crazy and resentment for both your sister and parents will build up. Re-look at this as you are not a burden to your parents and that you won't be the reason they run out of money in their old age. That being said, you'll probably be the one to pick up the care of your parents when they're broke from bailing out your sister.

Write off your sister if you must and don't have anything to do with her if that's what you need to do to preserve your sanity. But continue to keep tabs on your parents and make sure she isn't abusing or out right stealing from them.

This really does suck, and I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

Do you REALLY want to get rid of her? Like within a month?

Have your parents cut off the internet and cable TV services, and only sporadically buy groceries, and then only the bare basics... like maybe only bread & peanut butter. She will eventually throw up her hands and move out. My sister did that with her kids... it really works.

You can add to the sneakiness... wait until she has a load in the washer and when she walks away, you hit it with a splash of some chlorine bleach... that can really mess things up and will have her howling.

Before you do this, take a little time out to remove your things from her access... like put a keyed lock on your bedroom door and keep it locked.

Answer 5

You mean 'mooches' off your parents? As in taking advantage of them? Sadly, that is between your parents and her. All you can do is privately mention that you are concerned that your sister isnt developing her full potential for independence. Then its up to them. Just try to concentrate on your own betterment and advancement. Its sad but I doubt you have much power over it

Answer 6

You really need to talk to her about this. I would hate it if my sister was like that. Maybe you should say something like this:

I'm really uncomfortable that you always ask " mom and dad" for money. It's really starting to annoy me. Come on, if you really need the money, you need to find your own way to get it, not mooch off ppl. You know, sometimes there isn't always going to be someone you can rely on >:(.




sorry that was the first thing that popped in my head.

Answer 7

sorry but you don't deal with it.

your parents are the ones letting themselves be used and only they can stop it. You can talk to your parents about it, but if they choose not to do anything, then you should let it go. If you don't you could risk causing hard feelings between you and your parents.

I understand your dilemma, i have a sister that would take the last bite of food out of someones mouth if it would benefit herself, and not give one rats a$$ that someone else went without. She has used her children as leverage to get money or help when she needed it, and has let people spend money on her, and then tell them it wasn't enough.

But only the person who is getting used can change things. We see what they are like, but we are not in control of everyone and we must let them make their own mistakes. (think of it like this-when we were young our parents would let us make mistakes because it helped us learn, and we wouldn't let believe them if they told us what the result of our mistakes would be, we had to learn for ourselves.-so think of it as us letting our parents make their own mistakes and learning from them, because they wont believe(or don't want to believe) that a child of their own is capable of doing what they are doing.)

Answer 8

You have not said how old you OR your sister are or why she is doing this --
I'm GUESSING you are not 18 - just a guess. If not, YOU IGNORE IT and go on with your life with your friends. This is your parent's problem. Does your sister have drug issues?
I'm asking for a reason. I have 2 boys (men now) and they are 9 years apart....ONE is a drug addict so if your question relates to this, you may certainly message me -- mine is open and maybe I can help as we did finally make the moocher move out.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

you tell your parents that she is mucheing and that they do not desive that. that you are watching out for them. the best thing that they can do for her is kick her out and then she will have to get on her own 2 feet and until they do that she will keep doing the samething(mucheing) she will never budge until your parents make her budge!! because she will no reason to!!! me and my family had the same problem with my uncle. he lived with my grandparents until he was 24 yrs old then me and my mother told my grandparents exactly what i just told you to tell your parents they kicked him out. then he found a job and now is doing alot better!!good luck!! hope everythingworks out!!