I held the job for 6 months when I was let go unexpectidly. I have never attended any of these events and don't intend to. My wife and I recently had our first child and this woman sent an expensive gift. While I held the job I never spent any time with her outside of work.
2007-12-02 08:15:03 · 11 answers · asked by paristroutsoup 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i would send a "thank you" for the gift, and if you are comfortable with it, a picture of the baby. but i would not feel obligated to attend any of her events especially if you are a new parent. you are busy enough and if she is a parent, i'm sure she can appreciate that. most likely, she gave the gift because she wanted to, not because she expected something in return. if she did expect something in return then that is her problem, not yours. also, a lot of people give baby gifts. peolpe know how expensive babies are and usually just want to help. having a baby is an exciting thing. maybe she just wanted to know how you were doing. if you want, send periodic pics (like with your christmas card or something.) however, i don't think that you are really obligated to do anything here. good luck with the little one! they are so much fun!
2007-12-02 08:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by jen19music 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Any time she invites you, decline politely according to the level of formality (written invitation, written regret etc.). Send a polite thank-you note for the gift.
Do not antagonize her, continue with neutral politeness. Eventually you'll figure out what's going on. 1) her secretary is Much too efficient 2) she plans to run for office 3) she'll become CEO 4) she's building her "friend" list for something else.
If she's incubating a religious cult or pyramid scheme, you're safe. If she hits the big-time, you will have the right to be cynical but also you might enjoy being on her early list.
2007-12-02 08:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just send her a thank you card. If you do not wish to attend any of the events at her home, don't. With a new baby, you are constantly tired, so this is a good excuse. I am surprised she keeps inviting you after you have said "no" several times.
2007-12-02 08:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sent an expensive gift for you and your wife. The least you can do is to attend her events. You don't have to always go to her events every time she invites you. But I think you should go now and then.
2007-12-02 08:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not obligated to go to any of these events. A polite response, such as "I'm sorry we are unable to attend" will be enough. You don't need to go into details. The gift she sent you is certainly a nice gesture and you are obligated to send a thank you card. Otherwise, you're under no obligation to socialize with her.
2007-12-02 08:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel there isn't any obligation except for sending a thank you card for the baby gift. Eventually, she will stop inviting you to events in her home because you do not go....do not sent Christmas Cards or any other card( except the thank you card I mentioned for the baby's gift), screen your incoming calls so you don't have to talk to her.
2007-12-02 08:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no obligation. she is trying to show kindness and sympathy in a world that is neither. if you really dont apprieciate this, just start declining her invitations and she will eventually sense your feelings and stop contacting you.
2007-12-02 08:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her a thank you... how sweet of her..... you really dont have any obligations, but i would try to attend at least one of her engagements out of respect and appreciation for her thoughtfulness, and dont forget the bottle of wine!!!
Happy Holidays!!!
2007-12-02 08:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh shes so sweet!
just a thank you i appreciate it should cover it.. i mean YOU have the new baby, not her! and if you still feel like you owe her something invite her to a function you throw..
congrats on the baby!! =D
2007-12-02 08:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Politely tell her that you are busy with your new job (assuming you have one) and your new baby. If she is having the type of event that might warrant a donation, send her a note saying "Thanks but no thanks" and include a few dollars.
2007-12-02 08:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋