My mother lost her job a few years ago. Since then, I have been helping pay her bills. I recently purchased my own home so I am not able to do all the things I use to do. Her washing machine went out, so I bought her a new one. Her phone was turned off, so I paid to get it turned back on and gave her some extra money to catch up. She was working 2 part-time jobs, but quit 1 just because she didn't like it. I told her that sometimes we have to do what we don't want to because we have things that need to be taken care of. I work 2 jobs and sure don't want to. All of this took place within the last couple of months. Now it's Christmas time and she wants a new TV for her living room. I told her that I was not getting it because I'm trying to re-do some rooms in my new home. Well, she just ignored what I said and has constantly brought up the TV. Mind you, she has a TV in her bedroom and in other rooms. I'm getting new furniture,giving her my old and paying shipping cost. Am i wron
2007-12-02 08:06:54 · 10 answers · asked by Hotgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you aren't wrong. You are doing plenty, and your mom is begining to expect too much from you. If she wants a new TV in her living room, she probably needs to move the TV from her bedroom! She may need some assistance in finding a better job in order to meet her expenses. Try looking around for organizations helping women to get back into the workforce and get her some help in getting a better job.
2007-12-02 08:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. In fact, I wouldn't even give her the old one. If you are serious about limiting the amount of help you give her and about making her stand on her two feet, you've got to stand your ground.
A TV is a luxury. If you can't pay your bills and are struggling then you don't get it. That simple.
2007-12-02 08:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are enabling her to rely on you for the things she (wants), She needs to get her priority's straight and take care of herself. Don't reduce her to a child .. Christmas, should not make you feel guilty.. If she has other TVs let her move one of those to her Living room. Yes, your doing her and yourself an injustice.
2007-12-02 08:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. You are trying to make a life for yourself. If your mom need necessities you can help pay for them, but a new TV and she has others? No way, she is taking advantage. Tell her that you are not the bank or her welfare worker. You have done allot for your mom now she is taking advantage.. Time to stop.
2007-12-02 08:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You werent wrong for saying no to her. She should just move one of the tvs in her place to the living room.
2007-12-02 10:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong she knows she can ask you for whatever she wants cause you normally buy it for her, a new tv is just taking the piss you are right to say no if she wants a new tv tell her to get a job like everyone else.
2007-12-02 08:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by arches79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to grow up. You are not wrong at all. It is time for you to live and you do not need to be supporting your mother!!
2007-12-02 08:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by SWEET PEA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong. It is not your job to support your mother when she is perfectly capable of taking care of herself. your mom is a mooch and she's mooching off of you.
2007-12-02 08:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong.
You got your own life to live.
Your Mother should leave you alone.
2007-12-02 08:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by skunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most definetly not wrong for telling her no
2007-12-02 08:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Amber W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋