i've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a yr now but he has been in iraq for the past 8 months. lately we have been arguing every day and im so tired of it and dont want to be with him anymore. i just dont feel the same way about him anymore and want to move on. he's coming back in like 3 months... how do i break up with him? should i wait until he comes back or do it now? i've tried talking to him but he insists that we shouldnt break up and everything is going to get better, but i really just want to move on.help plz :(
2007-12-02 07:58:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pray 2 god 2 make t his guy die on war t hen your smile will come back
2007-12-02 08:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by punny p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distant relationships are hard. Maybe you think you don't feel for him anymore because it's been so long that you have seen him. I wouldn't break up with him now, He's in Iraq, he needs someone to look forward to talking to make his day better. BUt if you really feel you don't want him anymore, I don't know. He might be going through a tough time and need someone. I would add more, but my boyfriend called lol. * hes far away from me to right now on a job* =( for 6 months. Good Luck !
2007-12-02 08:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by ~!Ashley!~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His life has changed forever based on what he's now going through. Really, if you've been together for a year (8 months of which he's been deployed) you've only really got 4 months worth of equity in this relationship. 4 months isn't a lot of time to really know about someone, and whatever you DID know about them is irrevocably changed once they go to war.
Feel however you want to feel, but please don't formally break up with him while he's still deployed. Couples have been enduring this type of dynamic all throughout human history, and it's certainly not your fault that this is breaking you down (but it's not his fault either). Your life has gone on uninterrupted with plenty of room for the same old concerns you've always had. His life has been turned upside down and life and death hang in the balance....yeah, he's going to be a bit ill-tempered sometimes because good things aren't happening. He's not on vacation.
Try to hang onto the break up news until he's stateside again. Why? Because breaking up with him while he's deployed could cost him his life. (I've seen that happen more times than you could imagine.) Good luck.
2007-12-02 08:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouches baby. I don't know what to tell you, most of my family is in Iraq and that can really put you on the spot when you've got more bad news for them. Just try to hang on to the relationship as much as possible, and when you simply can't stand it any longer, maturely and politely tell him that you think maybe your relationship with him would be better off if you just stayed friends. But after the breakup, DO be his friend and still talk to him that way he doesn't feel like you were just bsing him.
2007-12-02 08:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Afton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings that you have right now are very real, but it is common for people in your situation to feel that way. You don't get to see him when you want to, he can't be there for you when you really need him to be. I understand what your feeling. Right now you don't want to be in a relationship because you don't get to see him, and when you talk to him that is all you do is fight. That isn't good, but what you have to realize is that your not there for him when he needs you, he can't see you when he wants to, and when he does talk to you all you guys do is fight. Being away from the one you love is hard, and with him being that far away, that means it is all that much harder to have a relationship with him.
I personally would waite for him to come home, talk to him in person, he doesn't want to break up with you, and he probably knows that it has to be hard for you to. Just make sure that what your feeling now towards him is how your going to feel when you see him when he is home. I know it is hare to deal with, and alot of women tend to move on in their lives when this kind of situation comes up. I think that the both of you are just arguing because you miss one another, but I could be wrong. He is fighting for your freedom to you know. Give him a chance to make it up to you for being gone so long. This isn't his fault that he is as far away, I am sure if he were here like he would like to be you wouldn't be on here asking a question like that. I hope I helped you out. God Bless you and your family. Good Luck to you.
2007-12-02 08:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by kandie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should definitely wait!! I am sure that you both are going through a lot of stress with him in Iraq. When he gets home things might be completely different. Just give it a chance.
2007-12-02 08:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by junelou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want nothing to do with him, and it's not the distance thing just tell him that you need to take a break from him and maybe when he comes back you will be able to meet up but for now you two can't be together.
Good luck!
2007-12-02 08:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's in a flippin war honey. he's probably going through things that none of us could understand unless you've been there. i mean people dying, getting hurt, inocent people.....
he's risking his life for YOU. give it time and try to understand what it'd be like to be him. just be patient. if your feelings for him really have changed once he gets back and you spend time with him, then break up with him. but you havent seen him in eight months so maybe you're just having trouble with the whole "long distance relationship" thing.
2007-12-02 08:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by HcBasketball#15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait the three months you never know what could happen he could just be under stress and maybe thats the reason hes being so mean and if its not the reason then you break up with him
2007-12-02 08:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never lie to urself and pretend its getting better... u gotta worry about you... do what u need to do... break on good terms now and u never kno, yall might have a shot down the road
2007-12-02 08:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋