I love my boyfriend and we have been together for four years. I am 21 and feel that he could be the one for me, but at the same time, I want to meet other people and experience other things. Yet, I am scared that if I do this and he was the one for me, than I am going to loose him. Any one else ever been in similar situation? I guess my question is, should I experience life and other guys or be safe and stay with him?
2007-12-02 07:42:16 · 34 answers · asked by Liana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not fond of his family or friends and I feel that is important if we are going to stay together, which is kind of another reason why I want to move on.
2007-12-02 07:43:19 · update #1
i started dating my boyfriend when i was 15 and in highschool. 8 years later and now im 23 and im still with him. we have got into fights and have split up a few times in the 8 years. i have gone out with other guys during the split ups. it isnt the same. i find myself compairing every guy to kevin. the guy wouldnt make enough money. wasnt attractive enough. did drive the right kids of cars. i would come up with every excuse in the world why another guy wouldnt work out. it felt like i was cheating and wouldnt let myself do anything like kiss or hug or anything. i thought experiencing other guys would be good. it made me miss kevin even more and realise i was happy with him.
its really up to you what you want. every relationship has its ups and downs. it just depends if its worth the risk. it sounds wrong to do and im not saying cheat. but go out one night with some girlfriends and find some random guy and kiss him and see how it feels. if your guilty about what you did then stay with the boyfriend. if you find yourself wanting more then take a break from the relationship. i had to do this once and it was enough to wake me up for sure.
2007-12-02 07:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my partner for 8 but we split up for 2 when I was 23 and he was 27. We had time apart, dated other people and I did have soem fun! But.. I realised that the grass is not always greener on the other side so we got back together.
If I were you I would take a break and have some fun. If it's meant to be then you will stay in touch and then maybe one day settle down. You are young. I'm only 26 but I'm glad we had that time apart. Hope this helps x
2007-12-02 07:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetey -- you've not really experienced life yet if you are only 21 and only been with this one person. I an 49. I married at about 20. People change a lot between 20 and 25 even. You are thinking about this now......tell him you all need to date others and see how it goes. If it's true love, it will be there LATER too. You don't want to be married 5 years and regret what you didn't experience. I don't mean sleeping with a bunch of people....you know what I mean.
2007-12-02 07:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is ....if you feel like this now your always going to have the same thought and will eventually want to act on it. You must pick what you think is best because sometimes the grass is not always greener on the other side.Either you stay with this guy and always think what if or leave him and either love the single life dating diffrent guys and have the chance of ruining a good thing.. p.s good guys are hard to find.Its easy to say you want to see othwers when your in a realationship but when your single its alot harder and more difficult i say stay with this guy and tell him you want a little space right now to make sure this is what you want because forever is a loooooooong time.
2007-12-02 07:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberlyn Woods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Four years is a long time to have a boyfriend. Have you talked about marriage? I know a woman who has been in a relationship with a guy for ten years and they share a child but live in different homes. They broke up and live with a new woman. All I am saying, is young people need to have experiences. But, if there is no consideration for marriage, then maybe it is time to move on.
2007-12-02 07:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you've been together for four years, you need to take a break. Just because you two aren't with each other anymore, doesn't mean you can't talk to each other! Tell your boyfriend how you feel, and tell him that you don't feel comfortable around his friends and family or that you just don't like them... I'm pretty sure he would understand! Who knows, he might feel the same way? Be careful about making the decision whether your staying with him or not, you might end up miserable!
2007-12-02 07:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what makes you happy and what your heart tells you. If you are not happy right now then you won't be happy 5 years from now. I think family and friends are very important in a relationship also. This may be why i'm still single at 30. LOL Anyway if you want to take some time and see what happens then do so and if your meant to be with him then it will work itself out. Hope this helps and we should chat sometime. LOL J/K
2007-12-02 07:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by sctrooper2795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to be honest with you ... If your thinking about wanting to move on, then I really think you should. Having thoughts like that means that you really don't love him, and you don't know what love is. Loving someone means that you love their faults and all.If you love him then you should love everything about him, not just the good times, or the good friends, good family members. Move on sweety, you don't really love him or want to be with him. Your looking for something new but the only reason why your scared is because right now you know that you have someone in your life, and he is going to be ther. If you move on and you don't find someone to love, you want him to be there to catch you when you fall. That isn't fair to him.
Just know this..... you want something else, and you don't love him. You want to experience something new, but not with him with some other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it to. I am not saying this to be mean, but it just doesn't work out that way. I am sure there are plenty of women and men that want to experience something new, and that just leads into cheating. Just do this for yourself. If you do move on, make sure the next person that your with doesn't have something to give you if you know what I mean. I mean a STD. Pertect yourself. Be careful in judgment. Good luck and God Bless you and your family
2007-12-02 07:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by kandie w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you really want is to go out and experience life and date other guys. It could help you realize what you really want in life and whether this guy is the one or you two are just in the "comfort zone". You shouldn't go through life wondering whether or not you shouldve gone out and tried new things, that's no way to live. I say do it and if he's the right guy for you than it will work out! Good luck :-)
2007-12-02 07:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way, maybe you should move on. It's normal to feel this way and it's not your fault. It's just that after being in such a long time with him, you finally realize that he doesn't meet up to your standards and maybe you guys aren't meant to be together forever. You are still young and if you want to go out and meet some new people, go for it. You shouldn't feel tied down at this age if you aren't ready to make commitments.
2007-12-02 07:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by =P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋