k...my mom and dad first started dating when my mom was 15 and my dad was like 26... I dont need any bs on that. but my dad says its not ok for a 14 year old to go out with a 17year old. please explain. i dont really care that im his only daughter and junk, but its a little idk like hypocrasy...rite?
2007-12-02 07:41:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i said i dont want any bs about my mom and dad!!!
2007-12-02 07:47:19 · update #1
Just because they did it, doesn't mean YOU should. As a teenager, a 3 year gap is huge and a 17 year old should NOT be dating a 14 year old. For one, in less than a year he will be 18 and you only 15. He'll be wanting things, mostly likely, that will be illegal from you. So either he will break the law- or get it elsewhere. Your parents know this, from first hand experience probably, and would like to keep you from being in the same boat.
Parents often get protective of their children when they see the kids heading towards the same "mistakes" they made. Your parents may be happy together now, but I bet there are some regrets on one or both sides that you may not know about and they are trying to keep you from having those, too. I, for one, married the man I dated from age 16 on. I wouldn't recommend it for anything, but it's done and over with now and that's life. I really hope my daughters don't do the same thing, though. It might be hipocracy- but more like learning from your own mistakes.
The decision is ultimately yours- I hope you decide safely!
2007-12-02 07:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nijojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly understand your questioning why was it's okay for them but not for you, etc. I would assume that both may be looking at what the struggles were for them and since you are their precious child they are wanting you to have life better than they had it.
Now, 15 and 26 is quite an age difference and I wonder why would a 26 year old man want to be with a child?
Fourteen and seventenn are not that far apart and definitely much closer in age than the 10 year age difference.
A very valid point that your paren't have is that your mother was 15 and you are only 14. You may not be as mature as your mother was when she was 15 and your parent's realize this and this is why they are saying no. Your parent's could also know something about the young man that you do not know and are trying to protect you from that too.
Hope I have given you some ideas to ponder. BFN
2007-12-02 16:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by snookums 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hes not really being a hypocrit hes just watching out for you he knows how guys are im sure and hes just trying to protect you, hes been there and seen that with your mom prolly i mean if he dosent think its right then itr probably not. Besides theres alot of cute 15yr olds why does it have to be 17 thats a little old for a 14yrold =/ but if your really dont care about yourself that much to where you wouldent listen to your dads advice and to where you feel like you want to date a guy that old ( sure it may not seem old , but its kinda icky) then go right ahead but id prefer you just listen and stick with important things __ you'll be meeting guys all your life ones that are your age =]! just wait you still so young.
- G/L hope you realize hes just trying to make the best for you
2007-12-02 15:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by & This is the depth of Beauty; 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't okay for your mom to date your dad at age 15 when he was 26.
2007-12-02 15:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by caelach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad probably knows that not all boys are like himself. There are boys who will pressure you cuz they know you are younger. The reason it was okay for your dad was probably because your dad was not like that. If you really want to date this guy, ask your dad to let you invite him over. If he says no after that, maybe your dad is right. Stick to guys your own age.
2007-12-02 20:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by omygosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just looking out for you. Even though he did it himself, he doesn't want it for you. He thinks that the situation is totally different, even if it isn't. Try talking to him reasonably, not bringing it up too much but just saying 'Look Dad I really like this guy and he's only a few years older than me and he really likes me too.' If that doesn't work, subtly remind him of how he got with your mum but don't make him mad.
2007-12-02 15:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Queenlover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call it what you like, but he's right. A 17 year old boy can take advantage of you, and you will regret what happens. Your father knows this.
2007-12-02 17:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see the objection if you are trustworthy, get passing grades or better, keep all of the curfew rules, do all of your chores around the house, and continue to participate in family activities.
2007-12-02 16:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it is hard for your dad to adjust to the fact that you are growing up. he is making up excuses because he is afraid to let go. so don't think your dad is a hypocrite, think of it as him showing that he cares. take that relationship slowly so just maybe he can get use to it.
2007-12-02 18:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by imperfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the old "Do as I say ... not as I do" thing......
Parents have learned life lessons (some the hard way) and are trying to save you the pain of learning the lessons the same way.......
Sorry .... it's a parental thing.
2007-12-02 15:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by John 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋