I'm facing yet another breakup with someone who is just too afraid to commit to being in a relationship After 4 months of dating. My optimism is running thin. Is it true that all men are afraid of commitment? Am I just finding these guys b/c something I'm doing wrong?
2007-12-02 07:20:37 · 12 answers · asked by saboe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some men are afraid of commitment. Guess what? Lots of women are, too.
Are you meeting people that are sufficiently interested in long-term relationships, and are compatible with you?
For example, if you meet your boyfriends at bars, their focus may be on physical relationships, not long-term emotional ones.
2007-12-02 07:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by PhotoJim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends.Did you meet them at a bar,party, club?If this is the lifestyle of the guys you date thats your problem.They know there are WAY TOO many women out there who will give them sex WITHOUT commitment ,and if you have had sex with ANY of them that is why they would not commit.
Like the old saying goes, why buy a cow when you can get all the free milk you could ever want and the cows are lined up to give you all the free samples you can handle in order to make you "love" them so youll marry them?
I dont mean that as an insult ,however it IS true.Try church,one that teaches Holiness and you'll find plenty of men who arent afraid to commit.One other thing, no one in their right mind would want to commit just after 4 months anyway, try a yr or 2.
2007-12-02 15:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find them nowadays, but there are some out there. Are you looking in the right places, because I think a bar isn't one of them. I'm getting married at the end of May, been with her for about 4 years, I'm 23. I'm not a sex-hound, I'm a virgin, been saving it for when I get married. The standards that you hold to yourself is going to effect the guy you find. Take some time off to find yourself more, before you find yourself with someone else. Think about why you want to be in a relationship, what do you want from a relationship and then just have fun. Dating is shopping for a spouse, if you pick up one and decide you don't like him, you take him back to the store where you got him and leave him there. Shopping can be fun, just have fun experiencing all the different people you meet. Take all those experiences, the good and bad, and let them shape you into a better person. Don't let situations like you have described get you down. I am sure you don't regret those 4 months you spent with your recent guy. If you do, think about why, and then don't let it happen again.
hope it helped.
-Clint
2007-12-02 15:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by clintonanthony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one am not afraid to commit. I have found the same thing in most of the women I have dated in the past though, alot of people don't want to commit to anything I guess, I doubt it's anything you're doing wrong, and I don't think it's just guys.
2007-12-02 15:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just the guys you are dating. There is truth to these comments. Alot of times when I hear women complain about guys fearing commitment, when you examine the men they date it usually becomes obvious that it's their selection of men thats the problem. There are plenty of guys out there that have no problem commiting whatsoever.
2007-12-02 15:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im facing the same problem. im trying to decide to continue with my relationship or end it cause he isnt ready to commit. ive been dating my boyfriend since highschool now for 8 years. we have been living together for a year. im 23 and hes 24. we dont talk about our future and our plans. he got mad cause i told him i wont buy a house unless were married. and he says we will have a baby when were finantially ready. well it was ok to buy a big screen tv and a new ten thousand dollar truck. im ready to grow up and he isnt and im sick of waiting. i dont even have an engagement ring yet. im sick of being the housewife with no benefits. men are just crazy. they dont ever realise what they got until its gone apparently.
2007-12-02 15:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm really into a girl, I wouldn't be afraid of commitment at all because I would love the girl so much it wouldn't matter.
2007-12-02 15:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of my friends, all of my male coworkers are married and so am I. So it can't be that all men are afraid of commitment. It must have something to do with the fellas your choosing. If you can't see it ask a friend or close family member.
2007-12-02 15:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIMES HAVE CHANGED. you are not the only girl with this problem. one time all guys committed but the changing times and cost of dateing has made men move on, guys these days don't even much work . they can afford a girl and it scares them off to think you might cost any amount of money...thats what i figure it is. they want you but cant afford you.
2007-12-02 15:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by alvineram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd answer, but I'm afraid to commit to this question.
2007-12-02 15:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋